And now my boy's in love. All hearts and flowers. But, doesn't it freak you out that she used to change your diapers? I mean, when you think about it, the first woman you boned is the closest thing you've ever had to a mother. Doing your mom and trying to kill your dad. Hm. There should be a play.

Angelus ,'Damage'


Spike's Bitches 49: As usual, I'm here to help you, and I... are you naked under there?

Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Laura - Nov 02, 2020 9:34:45 am PST #7196 of 8208
Our wings are not tired.

I just honestly can't be bothered when I'm not going to see anyone in person who's not my immediate family or some rando at the grocery store.

I was just talking to my sister this morning about how we needed to buy more jammies and inside pants because we never go out.

Yeah, Jen. My option is going and being the lone (except for DH) person wearing a mask hanging far away from everyone. Or not going. Either way being a jerk, but a safer jerk if I stay home.


-t - Nov 02, 2020 10:00:47 am PST #7197 of 8208
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Neither of those options have you actually being a jerk, Laura. I'm sorry your son and in-laws are being obtuse about that.


juliana - Nov 02, 2020 10:01:49 am PST #7198 of 8208
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…

Go safety, choose safety.


DavidS - Nov 02, 2020 10:08:59 am PST #7199 of 8208
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

(what is the name for that hairstyle everyone seems to have these days where like 3/4 of your head is buzzed super-short and then there's a longer floppy bit on one side? that)

Side shave, generally.


lisah - Nov 02, 2020 10:46:03 am PST #7200 of 8208
Punishingly Intricate

Laura, being the adult in this situation means not participating in their unsafe event. Why not set up an alternate, virtual event for all their sensible friends and family? (On another day, I mean.)


Vortex - Nov 02, 2020 12:07:49 pm PST #7201 of 8208
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

I had thought that my hair had gone completely white but, since I stopped coloring it, it's a mixture of white, grey and the original dark brown. I'm thinking of putting in some streaks of blue, pink or something. The only problem is that they'd take FOREVER to grow out. sigh … decisions, decisions

I know that a lot of people like Overtone, since it fades once you stop using it. However, it smells VERY strongly of spearmint. I wanted to use it, but I couldn’t stand the smell.

I just honestly can't be bothered when I'm not going to see anyone in person who's not my immediate family or some rando at the grocery store.

Same. The reason why my hair hasn’t been cut or relaxed since January. It also tells me that my hair is just not going to grow past about shoulder length.


Vortex - Nov 02, 2020 12:33:22 pm PST #7202 of 8208
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

Laura, I feel your pain. One of my besties is having a wedding in a few weeks and I'm in the bridal party. Groom's family has had two (non-covid) family deaths in the past three months, so I think that they are desperate for a happy event. Problem is that they "don't think COVID is a big deal." They want to do a rehearsal dinner and a brunch the day after the wedding (the day of, we are going to a park outside for cupcakes and champagne. In November). Bride is high risk, but is not pushing back.

I told her last night that I'm going to the church and the park, but any event inside is a no go for me. Any outside event that is not social distanced is also a no go, which includes any kind of event where people are close together with those outside of their bubble/family.

Luckily, they are not great at organizing and they waited until the last minute, so it is unlikely that they will get their shit together to execute either/both events.


Kate P. - Nov 02, 2020 3:37:49 pm PST #7203 of 8208
That's the pain / That cuts a straight line down through the heart / We call it love

I have read enough stories about weddings/birthday parties/etc. being superspreader events to make me give a serious side-eye to anyone planning one of those right now. I know it sucks not to be able to celebrate with people you love! It really does! But you know what would suck so much more? Someone you love DYING (or even just suffering from a lingering and poorly understood disease!) because you decided to go ahead and throw a party anyway.

Ugh, I get so mad about this.


Dana - Nov 02, 2020 3:45:29 pm PST #7204 of 8208
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.

I don't understand people.


Vortex - Nov 02, 2020 3:56:36 pm PST #7205 of 8208
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

the stupid thing is that they have already postponed the reception to next year. Theyve been together for 14 years, living together for at least 6 of those years. There is no need to have this ceremony. This is a combination of COVID denial and the need to have some happiness from the groom's mom.