I don't have advice for you. Well, I guess I have a little. I had the same thing happen to me, basically, until it came to a crisis and the Buffistas helped me act, even though I haven't been as connected. It was so helpful to just let the Buffistas help . If you guys are employed by someone who has an employee assistance program, I highly recommend it - it was so good to have someone to talk to (who also loved Good Omens and didn't think I was nutty because so much of my social life is online, and even then, I am not as good at making private and personal connections as others ). Having my nephew diagnosed with executive dysfunction was also helpful. I thought I was just broken in a way that no one else was- especially since I am really good at work and school through tremendous effort and many many coping mechanisms, but never paid attention to my personal life at all until it all came crashing down. So much sympathy,and do let everyone help!

Thank you, Sophia. I don't know why asking for help is so hard.

Laga they are. I was running on a huge sleep deficit. That was Sunday. I barely slept that night but was determined to go to work, I had Tues and Wed off and told myself I had to just get through one more day. I also didn't want to look like I was trying to get 3 days off.

But on the way to work I was having trouble focusing, almost caused an accident so I pulled over and called work and told them I couldn't come in.

And I finally got a few nights of decent sleep and feel a lot better.

ahh I'm sorry about the near-miss but so glad to hear things are looking up.

I'm going down to the local meadery this aft to inquire about their hosting D&D sessions.

I am sorry this is so hard, Laga. All the ~mas.

thank you, Shir

I thought my day was ok but then the neighbor made a fuss about our trash can again. So back when Matthew was stuck with the squaters they left a lot of trash around. And it pissed him off that he had to look at it.

So the trash is under control but sometimes the lid is open some. We haven't had a recycling container and he came over the other day with a phone number saying he could get us a bigger trash can so he didn't have to look at it.

And then today he said he COULD stop being a nice neighbor and call the cops on us for Matthew and his mom smoking pot.

He HATES the way our place looks. He hates the chain link fence. He hates that the roof needs to be replaced, he hates that it needs to be repainted. He is constantly harping about how we could fix it up. But our place is better than our neighbors on the otherside. But the neighbor dude decided to buy a zero lot line house that shares a driveway with his neighbors and has almost no yard and a front view of the backs of some businesses (and there trash cans and the cars parked on the street).

When he drove by the house and saw all the other houses what did he expect?

I don't have the money to fix this up and it's not my house. Matthew doesn't and he can't physically do the work and I have no idea how much money his Mom gets a month but she has done a few things but I can't remember if she is on disablity or not anymore and just gets his dad's Social Security and pension. If she is on disability then she can't save any money for repairs. And she has done some work on the house it's just stuff the neighbor can't see.

ugh askye that sucks.

If I were in your situation I'd wish I had to fortitude to be like "I hear you but I don't have the time or the money. Could you help?"

If he brings it up again I will probably say something like that. I'll make a variation of what I say when anyone on Twitter has an issue with me not beiny formally diagnosed autistic.

I usually say if it's that important to them they can pay for the testing and I will share the results.

The thing is, I really wish the house looked better and there were some repairs going on but I don't have any control that so I just deal with it.