I wear various super-supportive sports bras to sleep in, but I'm just busty enough in my regular waking life (and devoted enough to vintage wear that requires a specific silhouette) that I generally stick with the wired-but-shockingly-comfortable Waocoal bras ita always recommended.

As one who once had a really small waist and round hips, the straight-on even numbered sizes fit me better than either the odd numbered sizes, or the combo sizes (like 5/6 or 7/8).

By the time I was 12, I had an adult-type waist/hip ratio, and I was 4'8". There was zero chance that junior sizes were ever going to fit me, even in the baggy jean nineties.

I think that people need Trudys old lady bra fitter people, but what I have found is people seem happier and more supported with a really tightly measured band, with no weird add 2" or anything. just pull that measuring tape right! Then you are looking at the difference between that size and the size of your boobs, but they sag and are hard to measure without wearing a bra, so you have to try a few. But I find so many college girls wesring something like a 36B when they would be better off with d Something like a 32F, which is hard to find. The strap thing for me is that I have really small shoulders, especially when ai was bigger, comparative to my band size, so they were literally patterned as if my rib cage matched my band size. Third love had a good racer back fit that fixed this, but even their regular styles were better about me not having huge shoulders even if I was big around the middle, I also did good with it's Waco all recommendation, but third love was actually cheaper! But it also means priorities. I can be OK with spending a lot of money for one bra that aihand wash a lot because ai am, like JZ, pretty committed to a certain silhouette. And these are comfortable for that silhouette. I think the scrappy/Jessica bras are great and affordable and perfect if you don't need or want the vintage feel

So after my analyst was out sick for 2½ weeks, and after two days of me trying to contact him, he finally returned my call today to tell me he will be out sick for two more weeks; he'll be back at work on the 18th. I have no idea what's wrong with him, he's extremely guarded about his personal life.

I'm handling it, and I'm not handling it. I'm angry at him for being sick; I'm angry at him for how unprofessional he's been dealing with his illness (he didn't have my number on his phone and he had to get someone to find my number on his office rolodex). I'm also very lonely at this point. But mostly I just feel numb right now.

On the other hand, at least I'm sleeping OK at this point, at least he DIDN'T DIE, and THANK GOD he'll be back before the holidays.

Wow, Tom. That is really hard. You should be proud of how well you have handled the disruption.

Oh, man, Tom, I'm so sorry. That's so not at all your fault and hard to deal with.

Therapists should have backups available. If my journals couldn't go two days without someone taking care of them, neither should a human being in distress.

My beloved cat Leo is very ill. Tomorrow I will finally find out, after three days at different veterinary offices and several different kinds of tests, if he has leukemia or what the hell is causing his severe anemia. I am thankful that I didn't cancel the pet insurance after I lost my job, because this has already gone over a thousand dollars. He's only 12 years old. Oh cat, why'd you have to get sick?

Oh Zen, I am sorry about Leo. Breathing a sigh of relief on the insurance. I hope you have a better prognosis than expected.

And yes, good grief, therapists should have someone covering them. Also, they should communicate better!!

Tom, all your reactions to your therapist sound totally normal to me. Yay that he didn't die, but what a clusterfuck regardless!

((Zen)) may all the cat-ma be yours.