It is useful, Hil. She is just ridiculous. People don't get that a locked post isn't available to the world at large.

I just don't even get what she thinks that anyone would do with that information.

Why not fill out her family tree anyway and put in some stupid, obvious mistakes, like double the number of children and add a few random spouses. Then forward for her input and claim it's all public record.

Just if you want to wave that red flag at the angry bull, that is.

I just checked, and found that she's on at least three other public trees on various genealogy websites. (Or, at least, her parents are, plus two children -- it doesn't show names for living people.)

I guess she figured if it's a security question like oldest cousin or mothers middle name or something?? But yeah, hard to hide.

Yeah, seems like ignoring her is a good idea.

I sent back a message, "Thanks for reaching out! If you want to be excluded from the family tree, that's fine. I'd never share any information that anyone was uncomfortable sharing."

I did not point out that all of this information was easily available.

That was big of you. I would have been all "However, if you are disturbed by this, you may want to check out ___ where similar information can be found."

Passive aggressive and petty? Moi?

And fuck, I lost a favorite earring. Even more annoying because I touched it earlier and realized that it didn't have a keeper on the wire and thought "need to make sure that I put one on when I get home." grrrrrrrrr.

That was big of you. I would have been all "However, if you are disturbed by this, you may want to check out ___ where similar information can be found."

I typed and deleted similar several times.

Oh I hate that Vortex—I'm mad because I thought I lost one of my favorite earrings, and then I found it, it had fallen out at home rather than on the street. And I was so happy! And then a week later I lost it again. This time I think for good.