If this person really wants to see you maybe they could suggest a low key one on one type thing. Or say they'd like to that even your life calms down and if that doesn't happen for a few months it's ok.

are not going to be cool about me missing again unless I'm actively on fire or something.

I think I speak for all of us when I say I will totally vouch for your being on fire if it comes to that.

Shitty Other Dad has officially canceled the playdate. Naturally this is all my fault because I am a bitch who takes sides and he is a blameless victim. (Did I say blameless victim? I meant spineless assberet. Oh my God fuck this guy.)

That dude needs to grow up. Seriously is screwed up to hurt your kids over this.

I feel terrible for D, but I feel even worse for the other kid, who is a sweet generous soul, being actively and deliberately taught how to be a bully by an adult who should fucking know better.

Also, I will have to monitor D's email usage even more closely now that I know SOD has his address. It sucks that he has to learn How To Block People On Social Media this young.

assberet

New favorite word. Though I had to work at it a bit. "Ass bert? Ass Barrett? Oh! French!"

Also, and this is just me being bitchy, did this asshole think I was a rookie at online harassment? Did he actually fucking think I would cave in? Honey, I have been a woman on the internet for a LONG. ASS. TIME. Go and play in the kiddie pool because I will crush you like a goddamn insect.

Also, and this is just me being bitchy, did this asshole think I was a rookie at online harassment? Did he actually fucking think I would cave in? Honey, I have been a woman on the internet for a LONG. ASS. TIME. Go and play in the kiddie pool because I will crush you like a goddamn insect.

Heh.

I organized a parental co-op week of summer care and it's gone great this week. But that's because I very carefully selected four other kids/parents that were super easygoing and easy to deal with.

Teppy, you gotta say no and thin out that calendar. You need a fucking break and that's completely legitimate. You've got multiple major stressors going on right now and you get to take care of your psychic well being.

You do not have to sacrifice your sense of well being to the Gods Of Social Calendar.

ltc is being leathally cute this afternoon.

Steph, I'm an extrovert and that's officially Way Too Much. I'm going to add myself to the validation chorus - do what you need to do for you. You can explain why or not, up to you. Good friends will understand.

I think the guy i was supposed to go out with is ghosting. And even if he isn't, I'm not thrilled to meet up anymore since he's left me waiting until 2 hrs prior to date time. Present company excluded, dudes just ain't shit.

Jessica, reading that made me feel as though my hair is on fire, I'm so furious.

I don't know, I just feel like people who are all "We picked the date of the party so you could be here since you missed the last party" are not going to be cool about me missing again unless I'm actively on fire or something. And why do they care so much if *I'm* there, anyway? It's a party! Where there are MANY people. One person shouldn't matter.

Steph, would it help to practice a script along the lines of, "I so appreciate you thinking of me like that. But my mom just had open heart surgery and she needs me"? You don't have to tell them that what you mean is that your mom needs you to not be a hot mess of anxiety, stress, and whatever physical ailment crop up for you when your stress level goes through the roof whether you spend any time with her on that day or not.