I don't like the word work when it comes to relationships. or compromise, As long as you have a common goal, of wanting to be together There are times when I want to be alone, partly ( or maybe mostly ) because I take responsibility for how things are with others around me. Balancing ever y part of me , with another person - is tricky. But, we do well together. and for someone that does not get lonely, i miss him when he isn't around. I want him to be as whole happy and healthy as he can be - I know he feels the same. and even when he is driving me up the wall, I feel that way. our needs as a couple are important, but only because our needs as individuals are important.

I ended up talking to him about some of this. Actually I got really sad and started crying and he held me and stroked my hair and told me it was ok if I was sad (I hadn't really told him) and if I couldn't say everything my feelings were what I felt and it was ok.

And then I talked some and he told me I take on too much worry and that we had been over some of this.

He has made so many little changes to accommodate me and I am worried he will get tired of it. I am trying to think of some ways that we those things can be changed again but more to accommodate us both.

Happy birthday, Hil! I hope the last few days off have given your lungs time to recover. Is your sister still visiting?

(Still on FB vacation so back to birthday greetings here!)

Happy birthday, Hil! I hope the last few days off have given your lungs time to recover. Is your sister still visiting?

Thanks! I'm feeling somewhat better, though still coughing some. My sister went home on Sunday.

I called the wheelchair company about my chair not working, and they had me test a bunch of things, and then said that it seemed like the CPU was malfunctioning. It's still under warranty, so they're sending me a new one, which will supposedly get here sometime next week. So, until then, I'll be using my walker at work, I guess. I'm going to be exhausted.

Ugh. Sounds like an extended warranty might be a good plan!

Also, I discovered that one of my favorite Cinci restaurants (the one that we pretty much always go to when Buffistas are visiting) is on Door Dash, so I ordered a bunch of food from there, because I have no clean dishes and I have no energy and they have vegan pumpkin caramel cake. (I do have a dishwasher, so acquiring clean dishes is not too much of a hassle.) (I broke something like four plates and two bowls before I had my most recent hand surgery when I couldn't really grip stuff, and I haven't replaced them yet, so I'm running out of clean dishes pretty quickly.) (Oh! I can put those on my Chanukah wishlist, since my mom keeps bugging me to add more stuff, because she doesn't like the comic books and art supplies that I currently have on it. She'll be happier with kitchen stuff.)

Happy Birthday, Hil!!!

Also, Melt is on Door Dash? Nice! Pumpkin caramel cake sounds excellent.

Also, Melt is on Door Dash? Nice! Pumpkin caramel cake sounds excellent.

Yep! So is Stone Bowl and a bunch of other places that I hadn't known delivered!

Update: pumpkin caramel cake was, in fact, excellent.

Birthday presents (from my parents and aunt) are the German edition of Rosetta Stone, a Professor McGonagall Pop figurine, and a flex nib fountain pen, so now I have fun stuff to play with, too.

Pumpkin caramel cake sounds super yummy.

Birthday cake wishes for Sumi today!