Quester, have you ever straight out told them that you'd like to be included more? They may not know. Of course, they may know and just be jerks. But I find it's always best not to assume motive, even with those one is closest to.
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'Heart Of Gold'
Spike's Bitches 49: As usual, I'm here to help you, and I... are you naked under there?
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Scrappy - May 30, 2017 7:40:25 am PDT #420 of 8185
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
smonster - May 30, 2017 10:29:51 am PDT #421 of 8185
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Oh, quester, I'm so sorry. If you take the initiative in making plans, are they responsive?
quester - May 31, 2017 2:30:35 pm PDT #422 of 8185
Danger is my middle name, only I spell it R. u. t. h. - Tina Belcher.
I haven't talked to them because bringing it up hurts too much. I thought that just the fact that I chose to move to the town my brother and one of my sisters live in would have told them.
I was included for a few months but then gradually, less and less until I wasn't ever called or asked. Now, I will get an occasional, out of the blue invitation, but that's all.
I mean, they were there when I needed help, but in between, when I just would like to hang, they are too busy with their families.
I have this terrible feeling that I'm lumped together with my 2 older sisters as the weird old, maiden aunts that no one talks about. Thing is, I don't enjoy hanging with my 2 older sisters myself. But, I can't control how they think of me.
I'm too poor to make plans to do things. I can't afford gifts for the little ones. I have no craft outlet to make things. I just feel useless and not adding to anything.
It's hurting just to write this.
Amy - May 31, 2017 3:52:27 pm PDT #423 of 8185
Because books.
Oh, quester, I'm so sorry. Family can be so hard, and so confusing. I'm sorry you're hurting.
Katerina Bee - Jun 01, 2017 6:35:25 am PDT #424 of 8185
Herding cats for fun
((Hair pats and hugs)) we like you though.
Laura - Jun 01, 2017 6:48:24 am PDT #425 of 8185
Our wings are not tired.
I'm sorry, quester. It really does suck. I hope that trying to communicate your desire to spend time with them helps. They may think you don't want to be included. Family communication is so often whack.
The whole family balance thing is tricky. I've tried to be extra nice and sociable with family and friends that I dumped from FB during the election. We do a lot of talking about sports.
sj - Jun 01, 2017 7:22:19 am PDT #426 of 8185
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Not that I think you should have to buy kids things, but dollar stores are really wonderful for getting a little something for kids. You can get little four packs of bubbles that can be split amongst the kids, crayons, coloring books, and sidewalk chalk. And the kids love that stuff.
Amy - Jun 01, 2017 10:09:31 am PDT #427 of 8185
Because books.
Hell, kids of a certain age would love an empty box. ;-)
sj - Jun 01, 2017 10:25:47 am PDT #428 of 8185
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Also, that. And if ltc is the kid, empty tissue boxes or catalogues.
Zenkitty - Jun 02, 2017 6:14:39 am PDT #429 of 8185
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
I'm sorry, quester. Family can be cruel and it's so hard to deal with. I hope this gets better for you.
The staples are out of my leg, all 30 of them (ouch), and I've got a hard cast on. That makes things easier. There's less worry about smacking my foot into stuff. And today I'm off to DC with a friend to meet some other friends. I have some trepidation but it should go well. We're going to see Wonder Woman!
Still haven't seen GOTG2 though. Dammit.