The Fug Girls have their summer travel tips and they're recommending Iceland (at least the first batch of comments). From one, "The penis museum (seriously) in Reykjavik makes for an entertaining hour." ... why did we not know about this?

I have mentioned the penis museum in the past.

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What is this new trend of "formal afternoon" weddings? I've gotten the second invite this year for a wedding before 4PM that is "formal". WTF are you supposed to wear? Actual formal wear? Dressy teatime?

Last time I wore a gorgeous floral ballgown, which received many compliments. I was not overdressed per se, but the vast majority of the guests were not as dressy as I was (barring members of the wedding party and the MOG and MOB). Lot of maxi dresses. I could also wear a tea length silk dress (which is what I would normally wear to a late afternoon wedding, but this "formal" BS is throwing me off) And this one is a family wedding, so I have to come correct.

Thoughts?

I've been to the penis museum. It's fascinating. Somebody has a picture of me next to a whale penis that's almost as big as I am.

If my therapist were a raccoon, I'd be a hell of a lot more likely to go to therapy.

Hmm. I guess I haven't been to many "formal" weddings! I have a few dresses I'd wear to a wedding but they're what I consider party dresses (not workwear) but not partying dresses (so, knee length and not sexy, even if they look good). I think you aim at slightly nicer than you would have otherwise but not actually formal because maybe people just don't understand that "formal" is an actual dress code and they are just trying to say "please get dressed up and don't come in jeans"??

Sorry to have missed others' reports on the penis museum ... I thought it was something I'd have remembered ....

I think you aim at slightly nicer than you would have otherwise but not actually formal because maybe people just don't understand that "formal" is an actual dress code and they are just trying to say "please get dressed up and don't come in jeans"??

I think this sounds right. With an earlier wedding there is the risk of people coming very casual and they may want to eliminate that more than a desire to have full on formal.

Next Saturday (not tomorrow) is Tim's nephew's wedding. It's at a really pretty venue that's part of the "barn wedding" trend. But, you know, a fancy, beautifully decorated, non-livestock barn that's only used for events.

Nephew and fiance are super casual people, as are all of their friends. I expect the female guests might wear maxi dresses or something, but I wouldn't be surprised to see shorts on the guys. And that's all fine! But nephew's dad keeps asking nephew what he should wear -- after all, this is his son's wedding -- and all nephew says is "If you wear a suit, you'll be overdressed," but doesn't offer any other advice.

I told nephew's dad to wear his suit but maybe leave the jacket off, and if the guests are super casual, maybe take off his tie. I feel like the parents of the bride and groom can be more formal than the guests if they want. Or not! It would really help if nephew gave a little guidance, but that's not going to happen. (Their invitation didn't have anything about the dress code; they just know their people and know they'll be dressed casually.)

I'm officiating the wedding, and I'm wearing my default floral dress, which I would have worn if I were just a guest. If that's dressier than most of the guests there, well, (1) I'm the officiant, (2) I'm his 47-year-old aunt (and therefore twice as old as most of their friends who will be there, which makes me An Old), and (3) it doesn't really bother me to be in a dress when other people are more casual.

The bride is wearing a traditional white wedding gown, with cowboy boots. Her bridesmaids are wearing traditional bridesmaid dresses and flats. I think the groom is wearing dress pants, dress shirt, a vest, and bow tie (and possibly his clompy work boots). And I think the groomsmen are wearing dress pants, dress shirt, suspenders, and bow ties. So the wedding party isn't as formal as some weddings, but they aren't in shorts and sundresses, either.

I often see dads wearing something similar if not matching the groomsmen. It should work if dad wore suspenders and a bow tie.

DH had to text pictures of his potential shirts to the bride for approval for Bobby's wedding. She wanted tropical. He ended up getting an expensive one from Lord & Taylor that she loved.