What Laura and Zenkitty said.

Sometimes parents are good examples, and sometimes they are cautionary tales. I have enormous respect for the children of bad parents who decide that they are going to do things differently.

Brief pity party, then I am putting it behind me. Bobby & Tate will have ~150 people at their wedding. Lots of Holts, and her family, and since they both grew up here lots of friends and business people. DH has several cousins in Nebraska flying in, and his sister went through an outrageous ordeal to get time off in July from being a new NYC public bus driver. All his siblings, aunts and uncles and cousins. Tons of Tate's family. My family, zero. I am the lone Miller. None of my sibs, my step-dad, cousins. None. There is this that and the other reason, but none. Let's just say there is a good reason we create our own families.

Blah blah, reasoncakes. My family is mostly in NY and the wedding is in July in Florida. My 2 sibs in FL have health issues. And, I am done. I have too much to do to wallow. And, I am going to have a blast dancing every dance at my son's wedding.

Laura, I would feel the same way. But you are going to have SUCH a great time at the wedding, and I can't wait to hear stories and see pictures from it.

Those silly Millers, acting like they fail to appreciate the awesome that is Laura. They are missing out!

I hope you know how much awesome you bring here to the board. It makes me happy every time I get to read what you have to say. Consider yourself hugged, and have a great time tripping the light fantastic at the wedding.

I'm sorry about the family stuff, Laura. What you're doing for this wedding is so incredible, and I'm very glad you have added so much to your life with chosen family.

Hugs to Steph and Tom and everyone dealing with therapy fallout. I'll never forget realizing that therapy was going to make everything hurt worse before it started to heal.

Thanks all, I really do plan on having a wonderful time. I know and love most of the people that will be there. And I plan on dancing with EVERYONE there. I already warned some of the kids' friends. I will likely be a hot sweaty mess, but whatever! Tate's Mom has warned the same, so at least we will dance with each other when we don't have other victims. I'll probably be sticking my wrists in ice water a lot.

I also purchased a squish~it undergarment to make me feel a bit less self conscious about my bulging midsection. [link]

Laura, I'm sorry that your family isn't going to be there. It's going to be a fabulous day regardless, and please give Bobby and Tate my love and best wishes.

Therapy is hard and scary, which is why I'm still psyching myself up to do it. It scares the hell out of me. I have nothing but mad respect for those that are doing it now. I'm hoping one day I'll have the courage to walk through a therapist's door.

I'm so sorry, Laura. That's tough.

I'm in a self loathing spiral. Someone distract my brain.