Also, I need hivemind help making a decision. There's a perfect Gothic Heroine robe on eBay right now, but the bust measurement of the robe is my exact bust measurement. Should I email the seller to ask about the waist measurement, in the theory that it's a wrap-style robe, so there's some flexibility in how it closes?

That's beautiful, Jilli. Asking about the waist measurement is not a bad idea. I would be tempted to just assume you could add a little lace to fill in the cleavage if it was too revealing, personally.

Lunch was canned raviolis, one of my random comfort foods.

oh my ... I just found this exercise program ... it seems to be for real ....

oh my ... I just found this exercise program ... it seems to be for real ....

We did the Prancercise at my last college reunion.

I do the same as Tom, but sometimes I will toss some maple syrup or lemon juice in there too. So yummy!

You can also cook them in bacon drippings. Mmmmmmmmm.

I'm thinking of starting a blog, probably not until the new year, but I've started to plan some things out, and I need a title. It will deal with parenting while disabled and everything that comes with that as well as some everyday stuff like cooking and books reviews. I'm thinking something along the lines of The Unexpectedly Normal Life for the title because I never really thought that marriage and kids were a possibility in my life. Any thoughts on a better title than that?

Surprisingly Normal? Although I think your title is great.

like your title too.

What is the point of a wedding if it doesn't dredge up family drama.

Backstory - as some may remember a few years back Kelly was in a relationship with an emotional abusive dude. When she left him, she moved in with her dad because I didn't have room in my 2 bedroom apartment. That only lasted a couple of months and she was kicked out for reasons that were never fully explained at the time. Her dad's wife was a large part of the issue. Things were really bad between her and her dad after that too.

Recently, she and her dad have been healing their relationship, but every time they get together, the wife "has other plans". Kelly hasn't seen B since the blow up, her fiance has never met her. But through some complicated things, B reached out to Kelly about helping with the wedding. The text came in right as Kelly and her fiance were dealing with his father's death, so she didn't respond right away. BUT they have since exchanged a few texts about flowers for the wedding. All good, right?

Yesterday my ex contacted Kelly's fiance and asked him to help heal the relationship between Kelly and B. OY. He is willing to try and sent a message to B asking if all 4 of them could meet up for dinner to talk things out and get rid of all the he said/she said stuff that has been going on for the last few years.

Now Kelly is all confused because she thought that she and B were making progress. I'm roped in as a consulting outlet for her fiance. CJ is just shaking his head. This kind of "putting it all out on the table" needs to happen...but I also predict that either Kelly or B will flip and walk out.

The added suckitude of the situation is that it echoes what I went through with my wedding and issues with my dad's wife. Different situation and all, but lots of he said/she said, bad communication, and people not willing to compromise. My ex was in the middle of that mess and now he is in the middle of this one. Ugh.

Ugh. Some people think that a wedding is a special magical beautiful happy sparkly time that will make everyone be the best versions of themselves, on their best behavior. (I am NOT implying that you feel this way, Suzi!) But really, weddings pretty much just amplify people's character. It turns people up to 11.

I hope some kind of reconciliation can happen, though. Or some kind of smoothing the metaphorical path.