TEPPY IS WISE.

I stole it from my therapist. It was a goddamn revelation.

You're wise at knowing what to steal.

Yes, quite wise.

I am going to post the current pictures to the Buffista FB page because easier.

I've been told I was irrational so. many. times. by people who just wanted me to hush and deal with their shit, that I'm not the slightest bit objective about it. However, objectively, I doubt you are being irrational, sj. You seem like a completely rational person to me. Having not-happy emotions and expressing them, even loudly and with tears, perhaps, is not irrational.

I have a small mountain of work to finish today, and my helper is not being super helpful. She's doing her job, she's just doing stuff she doesn't need to, involving people who don't need to be brought in, needing me to explain stuff she should have been taught, and it's slowing things down.

Thanks, guys. I didn't mean to post and disappear. My day just got busy.

Checking in with TCG doesn't really help. He's not good with that kind of thing.

I had a tough morning, and there were some tears. TCG was supposed to get ltc up before he left for work, and then he decided he didn't have time, and I was more than a little annoyed. ltc did not want to be up early for school and wouldn't eat breakfast. I was trying to get her school bag together, and for some reason there was at least one piece missing from every thermos she has (I still don't know where the heck they disappeared to). Mom showed up, and I asked her to get a face cloth to clean up ltc, because while she wouldn't eat, she did make a mess. She insisted there weren't any. I told her there were. She started yelling at me, and I went to go get them exactly where I said they would be, and there were a couple of tears in my eyes by then because I'm so frustrated with people who say they are there to help not being able to do the simplest tasks. Mom yelled at me for tearing up, and I started to really cry. Then ltc got upset because I was crying, hugged me and said, "don't cry mama". Mom got more angry that I was crying in front of ltc. So, more tears.

My afternoon was better. Mom took ltc to school, and I reorganized the pantry and all the spices because one of our local stores has a half price bulk spice sale in September, and I put away the rest of the non perishable groceries from yesterday's Peapod delivery.

Uh, your mother sounds like the one who was being irrational.

Yelling at someone who is already crying seldom goes well, in my experience.

I wish I could wrap you up in a comfy blanket and offer you the beverage of your choice, sj. That's an awful lot to go through.

My ~ma is your ~ma, as always.

You seem like a completely rational person to me.

Agreed. Also, you are going to cry in front of your kids, and laugh, and even yell! Suppressing emotions does no one any good. We all try and not cry in front of people, but if there is anyone you should be able to cry in front of it should be your immediate family. And us, because you know, family.

eta: and ltc comforting you is lovely and natural and she should get to do that too

Seriously, hearing the whole story, your mom is the one who sounds irrational. I've hit a point in my life where I think there are VERY few instances in which yelling at another human being is acceptable, and your mom did not meet those criteria.

If she played the "crying because emotions because I raised my voice for no good goddamn reason = irrational = depression" card, she is the one who is 100% irrational.

If you do have concerns about depression, definitely see your doctor, BUT don't let your mom's yelling and subsequent judgment be the factor that pushes you in that direction.