It's going to be 70 degrees this Sunday. I predict balcony sitting.
Can't even shout, Can't even cry. The Gentlemen are coming by. Looking in windows, knocking on doors. They need to take seven, and they might take yours. Can't call to mom, can't say a word. You're gonna die screaming but you won't be heard.
Dream Girl ,'Bring On The Night'
Natter 75: More Than a Million Natters Served
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Connie Neil - Apr 14, 2017 6:54:26 am PDT #9839 of 30002
brillig
msbelle - Apr 14, 2017 6:59:37 am PDT #9840 of 30002
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
I am getting double pay today, so it's fine, really.
Steph L. - Apr 14, 2017 7:01:02 am PDT #9841 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
Steph, if it is allowed and has not been done already, move some things from his place to the new room. His favorite chair, pictures, pillows. Anything that will make his room feel like his house and offer him familiarity.
The new room is referred to as a studio apartment*, and it's unfurnished, so all of the furnishings will be his. I'm hoping that helps somewhat. We'll move his TV over -- residents get cable, which will make him happy because he can watch Fox News. Although his room is also right across from a recreational area with a HUGE TV, so I'm hoping he'll wander out there to watch TV and make some friends.
*(It has a kitchenette, which is cabinets, a mini-fridge, and a sink/counter, but no oven or other appliances. And that's fine, because his room is the closest one to the dining room. If he really wants his microwave and/or Keurig, we'll move them over there.)
-t - Apr 14, 2017 7:10:37 am PDT #9842 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Double pay is good.
Matt the Bruins fan - Apr 14, 2017 7:13:55 am PDT #9843 of 30002
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
I'm honestly not sure there's anything more brutal for family members than dementia.
I can vouch for this. The one month of dementia and clinical depression my dad suffered due to sodium imbalance a few years ago was harder on Mom and me than the 37 years of paralysis and multiple hospitalizations due to physical ailments. I knew enough about psychology and neurology to compartmentalize somewhat and try not to let it get under my skin, but it really put Mom through the wringer hearing Dad say such delusional things nonstop. (And it was nonstop, Dad was just constantly talking about imagined worse-case scenarios whenever he was awake.)
Pix - Apr 14, 2017 7:30:08 am PDT #9844 of 30002
The status is NOT quo.
What Matt said. Both ND and I have experienced this with our family members, and it's gut-wrenching.
Connie Neil - Apr 14, 2017 7:45:07 am PDT #9845 of 30002
brillig
From across the Cubicle Wall: "You know when you pull out one single nose hair, and it hurts so much? The whole side of my face is on fire! It's like when you pull out an eyebrow hair! It's just AGGGHH!"
Strange to hear a dudebro complaining about plucking his eyebrows.
Consuela - Apr 14, 2017 7:54:55 am PDT #9846 of 30002
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Hang in there, Steph. Things will probably get better for a while after he settles into his new space and his medical situation gets managed; but of course in the long term, there isn't a lot of hope. Dementia sucks.
My brother forwarded a study about how people who drink lots of tea have lower incidence of dementia, so I feel vindicated about my tea problem.
Zenkitty - Apr 14, 2017 8:09:42 am PDT #9847 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
In the rundown of the substantiated sex abuse cases, I personally knew 5 of the perpetrators.
Oh, flea, that's all so horrible and sad.
Steph, I hope Tim's dad settles into his new place and is soon able to be content. My mom strongly resisted going into assisted living, but it wasn't long before she was happy there. She played piano for everyone, and made friends, and complained about the (excellent) food, and the staff loved her. It was so so much better for her and all of us than trying to keep her at home.
My brother forwarded a study about how people who drink lots of tea have lower incidence of dementia, so I feel vindicated about my tea problem.
My sister and I are always talking about how we can avoid this fate. Probably the best thing we could do is exercise more, which is of course the thing we're both least inclined to do.
From across the Cubicle Wall: "You know when you pull out one single nose hair, and it hurts so much? The whole side of my face is on fire! It's like when you pull out an eyebrow hair! It's just AGGGHH!"
It hurts a guy that much to pull out an eyebrow hair? Guys, I need someone to test this. Just yank out one eyebrow hair and report back.
Jessica - Apr 14, 2017 8:22:53 am PDT #9848 of 30002
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
My grandparents recently moved out of their three-story colonial into assisted living, and Nana is not adjusting well. Even though she has access to many more activities now (their apartment is down the hall from the pool, there is a knitting group, a book club, etc) because she doesn't need my grandfather to drive her, she feels like she's lost her freedom. We're pretty sure part of her crankiness is due to the early stages of dementia, though, so they really moved just in time.
(PS if anyone wants to buy an antiquarian book business with a gorgeous house attached, they're still looking for buyers!)