Woo Theo!

Yay, Theo!

Go with your gut, Sophia. It's been telling you what you need to know all along.

For sure!! And therapy is a great idea.

Sophia, that is a lot. I think you're instincts are right, but talking to an objective person is wise.

Dad update: I was all set to go up home today when my sister called that they'll be transporting my dad here this week because his defibrillator/pacemaker needs its battery changed. His heart rhythms seems to be stabilized after a medication change. Now they're waiting for a bed to become available for him here.

Much health-ma to everyone.

I need to do laundry and vacuum, but instead I'm crashed on the couch watching Vividcon vids.

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Good thing you didn't get there, then, Sue?

Definitely trust your gut, Sophia, and why not also talk to someone! (I should try finding a therapist again after the one person I emailed never wrote back.)

Yay bonus, Theo!

Good thing you didn't get there, then, Sue?

Seriously, I was a just a couple of hours away from leaving.

Sue, so much ~ma to you and your poor dad.

Sophia, that is a whole lot to parse on your own, but I think going with your gut is the best call. Finding someone to talk it out with would also be a good thing, though.

Thanks guys. The reason I am a little reluctant about therapy is that my last bout with therapy, in my twenties, about this same issue led to a horrible, horrible confrontation with my mother which had pretty long lasting consequences. This family seem like nice, high class, pretty, rich golf playing people who would probably think I am weird and cause my mother to go off the deep end. So I probably won't listen to a therapist about talking to my mother, because it was really bad the last time. My BFF is just imagining how badly my mother will be hurt if I don't tell her and she found out. QaI think I might be able to say I met an unknown relative on 23 and me and we would meet, but I think it would make her crazy that I already investigated and knew they existed before our match. Not my particular match person (my niece), but I knew the potential brothers and sisters and the parts of their life that I could google because they are fairly locally prominent. So even if I tell my mother now, I have been sitting on this for years!

Poor Sue dad! Much ma to you!