In addition to everyone's smart and kind words, I'll just add that your wife should be encouraging you to go to therapy, because it's so sad that you feel like this, and you should get people to help you feel better, regardless of the root cause. (I mean, isn't that what your wife wants to be doing for work??)

Very much what Jesse said.

[link] Their phone number is 1−800−799−7233.

Please call this hotline when you can and let them know you would like to talk to someone about emotional/physical abuse because a large group of your friends is very concerned you may be suffering it. You don't need to actually go to therapy. Crisis hotlines (with the option to chat, though I would recommend voice) are wonderful.

Timelies all!

What the others said, Gud.

Gud, even if were true and she's amazing and you're a screw up, wouldn't therapy help you be better for her?

I am flailing all over the internet at the news that Patrick Stewart is doing a new Star Trek series ABOUT PICARD on the CBS streaming service.

As for keeping therapy a secret--why?

"As you frequently point out, dear, I'm a shitty person. And having tried it your way for a very long time, with me trying to be less shitty and you pointing out how and why and how often I'm shitty, it obviously isn't working. And really, your way, there just isn't any harder I can try.

"So I'm going to see a professional who helps people not to be so shitty. I'd think you would be glad and grateful at my continued pursuit of being less shitty, and would be encouraged by in this plan."

As for keeping therapy a secret--why?

Because she'll get involved and that tends to end badly.

Still getting tired really easily today. Had to take a nap this morning after just going out to get my wife breakfast and hitting up Lowe's get get furnace filters. Then just making up marinade for dinner, cutting up chicken and having lunch wiped me out and I needed an afternoon nap. About ready to take my son out to practice some driving and then make dinner when I get home. I'm hoping I have some after dinner energy left. In the gaps I've been working on software and ripping DVDs for my daughters birthday (the physical DVDs are the gift but she can't really watch them unless they are available on our network digitally). I hope this weakness stuff gets done with soon.

Cool about the Picard thing. That could be good.

I am sure you shouldn't have any household duties at all for at least several days after getting out of the hospital.

I am flailing all over the internet at the news that Patrick Stewart is doing a new Star Trek series ABOUT PICARD on the CBS streaming service.

I think this may be the thing that brings everyone I know together!

I have made ice cream! I mean, I hope I have -- it's still in the freezer. But what's in there is frigging delicious.

I hope this weakness stuff gets done with soon.

It will if you actually rest. Shopping, cooking, and other chores are not rest.