Hopes for relief from being snowed in, Kate. And thank goodness for your MiL.

Ants are ooky, Calli. The most successful treatment for them is the old standby Ant-Terro. No spraying, no toxic environment for humans, and the ants never seem to die in place, they swarm all over the baits and then take some home for the wife and kiddies and die all together at home. Neat. Even if I do feel like the Jim Jones of ants.

Thanks for the good thoughts. H spent most of the summer in Charlotte taking care of their mom and BiL while he was sick. They're scrambling to find a memory care facility for her--it's been hampered so far by her losing her English as she loses her memory and faculties, but it's rapidly approaching pointlessness as she's less and less verbal. I can't help regretting that he's spent the last years of his life away from his home and partner caring for Mom. His choice, though, no matter my opinion, or H's. But H will probably spend most of this spring and summer there, at least until she's settled somewhere. And longer, depending on BiL's condition and needs.

We have a significant wedding anniversary ending in 0 this summer, and I feel very petty, pouting over likely not being with him to celebrate, as well as being parted for months. It's a very small issue against the harsh realities; I'm just having difficulty maintaining perspective.

Timelies all!

{{{Beverly}}}

That sucks, Beverly. I think you can indulge in a little petty here, even if you don't show to your DH. You guys have spent a lot of years taking care of others, it seems like you deserve a break to take care of just each other.

Not petty, Bev.

{{{Beverly}}}

Much love, Bev. It's just not easy.

{{{{Beverly}}}}

Ugh, I am tired of everything being so complicated. Like, I agree that criticizing Trump based on his weight is no less fat-shaming than it is with anyone else, and there are many, many other reasons to criticize him.

But I also agree that lying about his results (which it seems like someone is) is a hugely representative symptom of his and the entire administration's disregard for the truth, and of their determination to just fucking MAKE the truth whatever they say it is, and ignoring blatant lies lets them get away with it.

What you said, Dana. Also I laughed and laughed at Sports Illustrated's pictorial of "athletes who are the same height and weight as Trump". Man.

I totally think people can talk about the obvious lie about his weight without it being called fat shaming.

Then again I think shows and books can have homophobic and sexist and bigoted characters without the shows or books being any if those things which seems beyond belief to some.