::clutches Steely Dan closer to adoring heart::
t clutches with Amy
Mal: So we run. Nandi: I understand, Captain Reynolds. You have your people to think of, same as me. And this ain't your fight. Mal: Don't believe you do understand, Nandi. I said 'we run'. We.
'Heart Of Gold'
Natter 75: More Than a Million Natters Served
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Connie Neil - Sep 19, 2017 11:48:15 am PDT #16795 of 30002
brillig
-t - Sep 19, 2017 11:54:09 am PDT #16796 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
there's a lot of performative grief that is being laid on my sister & nieces by people who barely knew A, and it's so hard on them.
Ugh. Fucking people. I'm so sorry, Consuela. Just grieving is exhausting, having to deal with other people is really too much.
-t - Sep 19, 2017 12:04:52 pm PDT #16797 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
I went camping with a bunch of people in college, or maybe just after, and one of them brought a boombox and a cassette of Steely Dan's Greatest Hits and played it over and over saying "This is a good one" as each song started (maybe not every single song, but it seemed like it). I still like Steely Dan.
Maria - Sep 19, 2017 1:06:39 pm PDT #16798 of 30002
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
Maria, you are absolutely right on the burden of dealing with other mourners. Family isn't too bad, but there's a lot of performative grief that is being laid on my sister & nieces by people who barely knew A, and it's so hard on them. I get the impulse, but seriously, do people not understand basic courtesy?
I was so lucky I had a phalanx of Buffistas there who literally formed a ring around me to stop the outer tier from getting to me at the funeral. Everyone should have their own Buffista Legion with shields at the ready when they have to go through things like this.
WindSparrow - Sep 19, 2017 1:37:04 pm PDT #16799 of 30002
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Consuela, it just sucks. I have nothing more I can say.
Amy - Sep 19, 2017 1:42:25 pm PDT #16800 of 30002
Because books.
Everyone should have their own Buffista Legion with shields at the ready when they have to go through things like this.
Or anything, really. The lurkers were supporting me in email last night when the depression was getting too black for comfort, and it helped so very much.
Connie Neil - Sep 19, 2017 2:03:44 pm PDT #16801 of 30002
brillig
Having a guaranteed albeit invisible Buffista Legion was sometimes the only thing that gave me comfort when Hubby died.
Sheryl - Sep 19, 2017 3:29:45 pm PDT #16802 of 30002
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
Timelies all!
Hugs to all who need/want them. (That's as much energy as I've got right now.)
Atropa - Sep 19, 2017 3:57:07 pm PDT #16803 of 30002
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
Maria, you are absolutely right on the burden of dealing with other mourners. Family isn't too bad, but there's a lot of performative grief that is being laid on my sister & nieces by people who barely knew A, and it's so hard on them. I get the impulse, but seriously, do people not understand basic courtesy?
Dealing with other mourners is exhausting, and performative grief is even more so. When Mom died, my pseudo big brother texted me asking what he could do, and he took on the task of managing the biggest drama queen in our circle who we all knew was going to go for the Oscar in performative grief.
Everyone should have their own Buffista Legion with shields at the ready when they have to go through things like this.
Plei and Cass saved my sanity during that time. I'm not exaggerating.
-t - Sep 19, 2017 3:57:49 pm PDT #16804 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
In I-am-easily-amused news: my sister just texted me "Shana tova" and I responded "and also to you". It really doesn't take much.