Timelies all!
Realizing just how lucky I am to have found Gary. Don't think I could deal with online dating services.
Yes, it's terribly simple. The good guys are always stalwart and true, the bad guys are easily distinguished by their pointy horns or black hats, and, uh, we always defeat them and save the day. No one ever dies, and everybody lives happily ever after.
Giles ,'Conversations with Dead People'
Natter 75: More Than a Million Natters Served
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Sheryl - Aug 05, 2017 9:41:17 am PDT #14971 of 30002
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
-t - Aug 05, 2017 2:03:23 pm PDT #14972 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Jeez, y'all are not making me any more eager to date. Disclaimer: that would take a lot at this point. Point is, I feel more justified in my antipathy to the whole process, I guess. But good luck to those of you out there looking for love or whatever! I really am staggeringly optimistic in my hopes for happiness for people who aren't me.
Not that I can't be happy, but I doubt my happiness involves dating.
This post brought to you by finishing last night's wine while in the bath after a 5k. I'm pretty relaxed.
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msbelle - Aug 05, 2017 2:25:29 pm PDT #14973 of 30002
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
Well it is 6:30 at night and the guy that I am supposed to have brunch/lunch with tomorrow has not contacted me with a place, so that may not actually be happening.
-t - Aug 05, 2017 2:45:29 pm PDT #14974 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Hm.
sarameg - Aug 05, 2017 3:28:19 pm PDT #14975 of 30002
Bless the neighbor who introduced me to casal Garcia rosé with aperol or Campari. My whole house got cleaned on a bottle.
msbelle - Aug 06, 2017 8:22:37 am PDT #14976 of 30002
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
hivemind - the guy from online dating that I was to have brunch/lunch with today did not message me yesterday at all and sent a message of "Good Morning" at 10:51am. Now, I know I am a planner with a capital P and also crazy, but like that's lame right?
SInce I had not heard any plans from him I stayed up late last night and slept in today, like slept in past that message. Brunch or lunch plans should be made more that like an hour in advance no? especially with someone you have not met before?
Am I being unrealistic or expecting more from people that I should?
Steph L. - Aug 06, 2017 8:27:02 am PDT #14977 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
No, I agree with you 100%. While there's certainly room in life for a spontaneous "Hey, want to get brunch?" plan, this situation was not that. Because you and the guy had already talked about getting brunch, so plans should be made by the day before. Not a last-minute "So, are we doing this, or what?"
Steph L. - Aug 06, 2017 8:28:45 am PDT #14978 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
And my reaction to this guy would be "Well, since I hadn't heard from you by yesterday, I already made plans." Because your plan was to sleep in. You are not obligated to just keep your morning/afternoon entirely open in the event that he decides to text you with an hour's notice. What are you supposed to do, get up at 6 a.m. to get showered and ready in the event that he texts at 8 a.m.? This is why making plans ahead is important.
Laura - Aug 06, 2017 8:31:20 am PDT #14979 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.
Some people just are more last minute. I rarely get to plan more than moments in advance because of work and family stuff. It isn't so much that you should expect everyone to be a planner, but you should let it be known that you are and things have to be arranged more in advance for you.
msbelle - Aug 06, 2017 8:31:51 am PDT #14980 of 30002
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
That is exactly what I just told him. I slept in and have made brunch for me and my son since I had not heard anything.
I think he may work weekends and has just not said that.
I am firm on wanting a first meet with people I do not know to be during the day and he just asked what my week looked like.