Hm.

Bless the neighbor who introduced me to casal Garcia rosé with aperol or Campari. My whole house got cleaned on a bottle.

hivemind - the guy from online dating that I was to have brunch/lunch with today did not message me yesterday at all and sent a message of "Good Morning" at 10:51am. Now, I know I am a planner with a capital P and also crazy, but like that's lame right?

SInce I had not heard any plans from him I stayed up late last night and slept in today, like slept in past that message. Brunch or lunch plans should be made more that like an hour in advance no? especially with someone you have not met before?

Am I being unrealistic or expecting more from people that I should?

No, I agree with you 100%. While there's certainly room in life for a spontaneous "Hey, want to get brunch?" plan, this situation was not that. Because you and the guy had already talked about getting brunch, so plans should be made by the day before. Not a last-minute "So, are we doing this, or what?"

And my reaction to this guy would be "Well, since I hadn't heard from you by yesterday, I already made plans." Because your plan was to sleep in. You are not obligated to just keep your morning/afternoon entirely open in the event that he decides to text you with an hour's notice. What are you supposed to do, get up at 6 a.m. to get showered and ready in the event that he texts at 8 a.m.? This is why making plans ahead is important.

Some people just are more last minute. I rarely get to plan more than moments in advance because of work and family stuff. It isn't so much that you should expect everyone to be a planner, but you should let it be known that you are and things have to be arranged more in advance for you.

That is exactly what I just told him. I slept in and have made brunch for me and my son since I had not heard anything.

I think he may work weekends and has just not said that.

I am firm on wanting a first meet with people I do not know to be during the day and he just asked what my week looked like.

Well, I guess sorting out how to communicate well enough to arrange the first meeting is a suitable first level for dating.

I don't know if I can make myself do anything today. It's not super hot, I'm not dreadfully tired, I just want to stay curled up in bed and read.

I had let him know that I thought meeting in the middle between us was good and that I could get anywhere in the area, but did not know of any restaurants. He said "I'll find one" and so I left it, against all my bossy and planney tendencies because I am trying not to be pushy control freak.

I can do spontaneous unknowing details stuff with people I know, because I know 1) they will be there and 2) I will enjoy myself. It is much harder for me to do it/if not impossible with an unknown entity.

We are making plans for next weekend. I am setting a firm time and will nail down a location TODAY.