And my reaction to this guy would be "Well, since I hadn't heard from you by yesterday, I already made plans." Because your plan was to sleep in. You are not obligated to just keep your morning/afternoon entirely open in the event that he decides to text you with an hour's notice. What are you supposed to do, get up at 6 a.m. to get showered and ready in the event that he texts at 8 a.m.? This is why making plans ahead is important.

Some people just are more last minute. I rarely get to plan more than moments in advance because of work and family stuff. It isn't so much that you should expect everyone to be a planner, but you should let it be known that you are and things have to be arranged more in advance for you.

That is exactly what I just told him. I slept in and have made brunch for me and my son since I had not heard anything.

I think he may work weekends and has just not said that.

I am firm on wanting a first meet with people I do not know to be during the day and he just asked what my week looked like.

Well, I guess sorting out how to communicate well enough to arrange the first meeting is a suitable first level for dating.

I don't know if I can make myself do anything today. It's not super hot, I'm not dreadfully tired, I just want to stay curled up in bed and read.

I had let him know that I thought meeting in the middle between us was good and that I could get anywhere in the area, but did not know of any restaurants. He said "I'll find one" and so I left it, against all my bossy and planney tendencies because I am trying not to be pushy control freak.

I can do spontaneous unknowing details stuff with people I know, because I know 1) they will be there and 2) I will enjoy myself. It is much harder for me to do it/if not impossible with an unknown entity.

We are making plans for next weekend. I am setting a firm time and will nail down a location TODAY.

Honestly, someone who thinks last-minute plans are the way to act on best behavior (which is what I assume people are doing before you've even met) is probably not someone for you, unless you are willing/interested in being the boss of everything.

You guys, I went to my favorite taco place and they made a batch of posole, so I got some to go since I wanted a taco & some too and...so much posole! They gave me like a quart! It's very good, but I think I'm gonna have to freeze some.

And now I should gear up to go to the water ballet. It's Sharkspeare.

I am setting a firm time and will nail down a location TODAY.

Good call. Nothing wrong with planniness.

Sharkspeare! How wonderful.

I have done All The Things! Saw family, hosted friends, went to a concert, and have even washed one load of sheets in order to return the borrowed air mattress. Phew!