she's already under a lot of stress and it wouldn't be fair to her to create more potential stress.

Because you're not under any stress, so it's fair for her to create more stress for you.

Sean Spicer resigned.

Sometimes I feel like things are unfair, but I'm not sure because maybe I'm just being selfish. I'm not sure what is reasonable and what isn't.

I definitely feel like that sometimes. In my case, it's "is this depression or am I just lazy?" And in those situations, it's good to get an external perspective. You're getting it from us, but that's something a therapist could also do.

And when you commented upthread about wanting to go to sleep and not wake up, that's a big red flag for me. You shouldn't feel that way. Your kids shouldn't see you that way or worry about you. You need to explore medication (or a meds adjustment if you're already on some) or therapy or both.

I've always found it hard to be able to put myself outside my feelings and recognize when I'm acting or feeling a certain way that's influenced by depression. I'm getting better at it just through sheer repetition, but it's hard, because the thoughts are coming from inside the house.

Sean Spicer resigned.

That took a lot longer than I thought it would.

Sean Spicer resigned.

Muaahahaha.

I've started envisioning Trump in an orange prison jumpsuit. It's a happy-making image.

Sean Spicer resigned.

He should totally go to Disneyworld tomorrow. Hell, this afternoon.

Yay on the good news, Sophia!

The problem is that I think that would be a disaster. She could see that as an attack on her and get really angry.

Let her. As far as I can tell she's going to be really angry about something no matter what, might as well make it something that at least vents your own concerns about how much work you do.

I've started envisioning Trump in an orange prison jumpsuit.

I don't really want to see him go to prison (not he ever would). I feel like he's just a addled old man who has no real idea of what's going on. He should be a Waffle House, happily ranting about the government and immigrants to his old, addled buddies.

And when you commented upthread about wanting to go to sleep and not wake up, that's a big red flag for me. You shouldn't feel that way. Your kids shouldn't see you that way or worry about you. You need to explore medication (or a meds adjustment if you're already on some) or therapy or both.

What Dana said.

Dana is wise.

Your wife can be a caring, good person and also not seeing you and what you do accurately. IF there is more to be done than is actually possible for the two of you (oir the four of you including the kids) to get done, as seems likely if only because that seems to be true for most households these days, I can see that naturally leading to everyone feeling like (a) they are doing too much and everyone else must be slackinga nd at the same time (b) they must not be doing everything they are supposed to themselves. I don't have a solution, but I am pretty sure it is not a question of One Person being The Problem.