Yay on the good news, Sophia!

The problem is that I think that would be a disaster. She could see that as an attack on her and get really angry.

Let her. As far as I can tell she's going to be really angry about something no matter what, might as well make it something that at least vents your own concerns about how much work you do.

I've started envisioning Trump in an orange prison jumpsuit.

I don't really want to see him go to prison (not he ever would). I feel like he's just a addled old man who has no real idea of what's going on. He should be a Waffle House, happily ranting about the government and immigrants to his old, addled buddies.

And when you commented upthread about wanting to go to sleep and not wake up, that's a big red flag for me. You shouldn't feel that way. Your kids shouldn't see you that way or worry about you. You need to explore medication (or a meds adjustment if you're already on some) or therapy or both.

What Dana said.

Dana is wise.

Your wife can be a caring, good person and also not seeing you and what you do accurately. IF there is more to be done than is actually possible for the two of you (oir the four of you including the kids) to get done, as seems likely if only because that seems to be true for most households these days, I can see that naturally leading to everyone feeling like (a) they are doing too much and everyone else must be slackinga nd at the same time (b) they must not be doing everything they are supposed to themselves. I don't have a solution, but I am pretty sure it is not a question of One Person being The Problem.

I live alone and I haven't had to negotiate this stuff in years, but I do not miss having to hash out who does what in a household even though that means I have to do everything myself.

There are resources out there (such as "Drop the Ball" by Tiffany Dufu) that could help think about it and prepare for a conversation with a therapist or your wife.

That's not how a caring person acts toward their spouse. It's manipulative, passive-aggressive, and abusive.

Exactly. You need professional help, Gud. If you can't get your wife to agree to go with you, then go yourself. Please. She may get angry, but you should be angry.

Is it too much to hope that Trump will bad mouth Spicer and Spicey will spill a bunch of good stuff in response? Like ask to be brought before a committee and asked questions? Or have a chat with Mueller? I'm confident he has heard stuff.

I just read that Mueller is asking staff to save email correspondence with Trump Jr., and I can't wait for the inevitable "Whoops, we accidentally deleted them!"

And then we get to talk about emails again, forever, in an unending circle of horror.

I think my outrage fatigue is morphing into straight up reaction fatigue. Anything happens anymore I'm just like - I don't know what that means, I don't know how to react, maybe if I stay very still something will become clear.

I can't wait for the inevitable "Whoops, we accidentally deleted them!"

BUT SERIOUSLY, HIS EMAILS.