Dana is wise.

Your wife can be a caring, good person and also not seeing you and what you do accurately. IF there is more to be done than is actually possible for the two of you (oir the four of you including the kids) to get done, as seems likely if only because that seems to be true for most households these days, I can see that naturally leading to everyone feeling like (a) they are doing too much and everyone else must be slackinga nd at the same time (b) they must not be doing everything they are supposed to themselves. I don't have a solution, but I am pretty sure it is not a question of One Person being The Problem.

I live alone and I haven't had to negotiate this stuff in years, but I do not miss having to hash out who does what in a household even though that means I have to do everything myself.

There are resources out there (such as "Drop the Ball" by Tiffany Dufu) that could help think about it and prepare for a conversation with a therapist or your wife.

That's not how a caring person acts toward their spouse. It's manipulative, passive-aggressive, and abusive.

Exactly. You need professional help, Gud. If you can't get your wife to agree to go with you, then go yourself. Please. She may get angry, but you should be angry.

Is it too much to hope that Trump will bad mouth Spicer and Spicey will spill a bunch of good stuff in response? Like ask to be brought before a committee and asked questions? Or have a chat with Mueller? I'm confident he has heard stuff.

I just read that Mueller is asking staff to save email correspondence with Trump Jr., and I can't wait for the inevitable "Whoops, we accidentally deleted them!"

And then we get to talk about emails again, forever, in an unending circle of horror.

I think my outrage fatigue is morphing into straight up reaction fatigue. Anything happens anymore I'm just like - I don't know what that means, I don't know how to react, maybe if I stay very still something will become clear.

I can't wait for the inevitable "Whoops, we accidentally deleted them!"

BUT SERIOUSLY, HIS EMAILS.

In other news, you know how I'm on some Republican email list? Now I'm getting messages from some dude who's going to run against Elizabeth Warren. It would be funny if they weren't so awful.

Last year, I was the Massachusetts Co-Chairman of Trump for President. In fact, I was the only legislator in the Commonwealth to have the courage of my convictions to endorse Trump.

When Senator Warren is not yelling at us, she is the chief obstructionist in DC!

Warren supports open borders, single payer healthcare, amnesty for illegal immigrants and higher taxes on us.

That's not how a caring person acts toward their spouse. It's manipulative, passive-aggressive, and abusive.

This needed to be repeated.

You love her. She probably loves you. But someone loving you doesn't mean they can't be uncaring and abusive toward the person they love.

Gud, you need to take care of yourself. You're a wonderful person, and you deserve to be happy. You also deserve not to worry that you're not doing enough (because you ARE), and you especially deserve not to constantly worry what your wife will be mad at you for this time.

Y'all, I am so groggy this morning that I failed to type my own name correctly. My caffeine is broken.

Anything happens anymore I'm just like - I don't know what that means, I don't know how to react, maybe if I stay very still something will become clear.

We are all Abed needing help reacting to something.