That, and while she's trying to get things going, she's already under a lot of stress and it wouldn't be fair to her to create more potential stress.
That's disturbing. You're emotionally scarred and will end up badly.
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Gudanov - Jul 21, 2017 7:00:15 am PDT #14161 of 30002
Coding and Sleeping
Steph L. - Jul 21, 2017 7:00:27 am PDT #14162 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
She could see that as an attack on her and get really angry. Then she'll say it's obvious that I don't want to help her get her business going because I don't care about her... and ugh. I already went through that last weekend.
That's not how a caring person acts toward their spouse. It's manipulative, passive-aggressive, and abusive.
Steph L. - Jul 21, 2017 7:00:56 am PDT #14163 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
she's already under a lot of stress and it wouldn't be fair to her to create more potential stress.
Because you're not under any stress, so it's fair for her to create more stress for you.
Tom Scola - Jul 21, 2017 7:06:44 am PDT #14164 of 30002
hwæt
Sean Spicer resigned.
Dana - Jul 21, 2017 7:07:09 am PDT #14165 of 30002
I haven't trusted science since I saw the film "Flubber."
Sometimes I feel like things are unfair, but I'm not sure because maybe I'm just being selfish. I'm not sure what is reasonable and what isn't.
I definitely feel like that sometimes. In my case, it's "is this depression or am I just lazy?" And in those situations, it's good to get an external perspective. You're getting it from us, but that's something a therapist could also do.
And when you commented upthread about wanting to go to sleep and not wake up, that's a big red flag for me. You shouldn't feel that way. Your kids shouldn't see you that way or worry about you. You need to explore medication (or a meds adjustment if you're already on some) or therapy or both.
I've always found it hard to be able to put myself outside my feelings and recognize when I'm acting or feeling a certain way that's influenced by depression. I'm getting better at it just through sheer repetition, but it's hard, because the thoughts are coming from inside the house.
Steph L. - Jul 21, 2017 7:07:46 am PDT #14166 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
Sean Spicer resigned.
That took a lot longer than I thought it would.
Dana - Jul 21, 2017 7:08:07 am PDT #14167 of 30002
I haven't trusted science since I saw the film "Flubber."
Sean Spicer resigned.
Muaahahaha.
I've started envisioning Trump in an orange prison jumpsuit. It's a happy-making image.
Gudanov - Jul 21, 2017 7:10:50 am PDT #14168 of 30002
Coding and Sleeping
Sean Spicer resigned.
He should totally go to Disneyworld tomorrow. Hell, this afternoon.
Matt the Bruins fan - Jul 21, 2017 7:11:33 am PDT #14169 of 30002
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
Yay on the good news, Sophia!
The problem is that I think that would be a disaster. She could see that as an attack on her and get really angry.
Let her. As far as I can tell she's going to be really angry about something no matter what, might as well make it something that at least vents your own concerns about how much work you do.
Gudanov - Jul 21, 2017 7:15:06 am PDT #14170 of 30002
Coding and Sleeping
I've started envisioning Trump in an orange prison jumpsuit.
I don't really want to see him go to prison (not he ever would). I feel like he's just a addled old man who has no real idea of what's going on. He should be a Waffle House, happily ranting about the government and immigrants to his old, addled buddies.