The thing is, a big part (though not the ONLY reason) of why I'm not going is that I absolutely cannot be my dad's emotional dumping ground. Him putting me in that role is killing me. This is a boundary I have to maintain.
But I can't tell Dad that's why I'm not going (even if I thought that having a conversation about his inappropriate emotional vampire tendencies would go well under *normal* circumstances, I absolutely am not going to use the occasion of his last living brother's traumatic death to drop a bombshell on him). So -- and I do feel bad about this, but it's what I'm going to do -- Friday morning I'm going to call Dad and tell him I can't go because I have a migraine. That's the kindest thing to do right now.
(Honestly, I don't think I'll ever be able to have the "You are an emotional vampire towards me but not my brother and have been for literally 25 years and that is gross and inappropriate in about 100 different ways so cut it the hell out now" conversation with him. That's not a safe conversation for me to have. All I can do is establish boundaries of steel. Which I had been doing, until Uncle Ed's death blindsided me. Ugh. So glad for therapy tomorrow.)
Your plan for Friday sounds totally reasonable and kind to me. I'm glad for your sake that you'll be staying home.
Both a good and a wise choice, Steph, I think.
Absolutely. It's not safe or kind to be honest, so it's almost like you're translating it into language he can understand. Or something.
A bit of levity from the wilds of Tinder… I think this is a typo? Dude is describing kinds of movies he likes.
Action, comedies, marital arts, some sci fi, old westerns and b&w.
Welcome back, Dana!
msbelle, that is some serious adulting. You deserve all the stickers.
marital arts
Well, I think The Thin Man movies qualify. Maybe Mr. & Mrs. Smith.
That should totally be a Netflix category.
A friend's daughter tagged her in a bunch of photos on FB, with the caption "Gun day at the Zoo!" I hope to god that's a typo, or else the Cincinnati Zoo is dead to me. (I'm 99% sure it's a typo, since the "F" and the "G" are right next to each other, plus I'm pretty sure Gun Day at the Zoo would be in the news.)
In the US I would not disbelieve Gun Day.
Switzerland is mad expensive yo. A medium iced coffee at Starbucks is almost $8. A plain drip is $5!
Also last night was the solstice and some kind of city wide party but I had a migraine so went to sleep at 5pm. Woke up at 10, read for a couple hours and then slept until 5am.
Now killing a few minutes after breakfast before I have to suit up and go to a meeting all day long.
Teppy, that plan sounds totally reasonable to me.
