had to make another call to bank, this time to the bill pay service section. Since they had attempted to pay a scheduled payment when the bank had things frozen, the payment refused and then THEY frozen the account. So I had to get them to unfreeze it and hopefully the payment scheduled for today, but will go through.
- I reset up a payment to the one that failed and yes that payment is now gonna miss a due date.
- Luckily I also noticed while in there that my phone bill is due this week and in order to make the due date I need to make that payment via the phone website.
GRRRRRR
Back in US. Possibly about 75% dead. Still have Customs, parking shuttle, and drive to hotel.
Steph, I know it wasn't an easy decision, but I'm glad you're doing what you need.
The thing is, a big part (though not the ONLY reason) of why I'm not going is that I absolutely cannot be my dad's emotional dumping ground. Him putting me in that role is killing me. This is a boundary I have to maintain.
But I can't tell Dad that's why I'm not going (even if I thought that having a conversation about his inappropriate emotional vampire tendencies would go well under *normal* circumstances, I absolutely am not going to use the occasion of his last living brother's traumatic death to drop a bombshell on him). So -- and I do feel bad about this, but it's what I'm going to do -- Friday morning I'm going to call Dad and tell him I can't go because I have a migraine. That's the kindest thing to do right now.
(Honestly, I don't think I'll ever be able to have the "You are an emotional vampire towards me but not my brother and have been for literally 25 years and that is gross and inappropriate in about 100 different ways so cut it the hell out now" conversation with him. That's not a safe conversation for me to have. All I can do is establish boundaries of steel. Which I had been doing, until Uncle Ed's death blindsided me. Ugh. So glad for therapy tomorrow.)
Your plan for Friday sounds totally reasonable and kind to me. I'm glad for your sake that you'll be staying home.
Both a good and a wise choice, Steph, I think.
Absolutely. It's not safe or kind to be honest, so it's almost like you're translating it into language he can understand. Or something.
A bit of levity from the wilds of Tinder… I think this is a typo? Dude is describing kinds of movies he likes.
Action, comedies, marital arts, some sci fi, old westerns and b&w.
Welcome back, Dana!
msbelle, that is some serious adulting. You deserve all the stickers.
marital arts
Well, I think The Thin Man movies qualify. Maybe Mr. & Mrs. Smith.
