It would be time for yourself, which you both need and deserve.
Flames wouldn't be eternal if they actually consumed anything.
Lilah ,'Not Fade Away'
Natter 75: More Than a Million Natters Served
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
-t - May 12, 2017 1:19:18 pm PDT #11303 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Connie Neil - May 12, 2017 2:02:53 pm PDT #11304 of 30002
brillig
I wish there was a way to tell the ad generators "I've bought my car, you can stop sending me car dealership ads now, thanks."
Dana - May 12, 2017 2:11:21 pm PDT #11305 of 30002
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
Gud, I think I remember you saying that you wouldn't consider changing anything until your kids were out of school. If that's the case, at least please try to work on a more realistic and kind attitude towards yourself, no matter what your wife says or believes. You don't deserve to be miserable. You don't deserve to be treated like you're constantly doing horrible things, when you're not.
DavidS - May 12, 2017 2:14:40 pm PDT #11306 of 30002
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
She's a good person
Not even by crazy troll logic.
Good people don't make other people feel shitty about themselves.
Katerina Bee - May 12, 2017 2:40:23 pm PDT #11307 of 30002
Herding cats for fun
I have the greatest sympathy for anyone who has a loved one too quick to anger.
Perhaps reading about boundaries could help.
Hoping it will work for me before I'm 75.
Katerina Bee - May 12, 2017 2:43:04 pm PDT #11308 of 30002
Herding cats for fun
Also: tommy, Oakland airport is nice and easy. I choose it over SFO every time. Safe travels home to you. And yes, their shuttles start early.
EpicTangent - May 12, 2017 2:59:10 pm PDT #11309 of 30002
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty
Oakland airport is nice and easy.
Conversely, the last time I flew out of Oakland*, I was reprimanded for getting there less than an hour before my flight, security was a complete cluster, and I missed my flight because of the whacked out way the gates were numbered. (Seriously, they made me cry in frustration). So, at least a good hour in advance.
* Disclaimer: this WAS several years ago, so grain of salt, maybe KB has had good experiences more recent than my nightmare.
smonster - May 12, 2017 3:00:57 pm PDT #11310 of 30002
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
Gud, I think I remember you saying that you wouldn't consider changing anything until your kids were out of school. If that's the case, at least please try to work on a more realistic and kind attitude towards yourself, no matter what your wife says or believes. You don't deserve to be miserable. You don't deserve to be treated like you're constantly doing horrible things, when you're not.
If Dana's memory is accurate, then *please* go get therapy. Even if you have to lie about why to your wife (and the fact that I feel like I need to suggest that is not great).
Boundaries, man. So hard. So important.
On a different note, Happy Pants Day!
shrift - May 12, 2017 3:40:11 pm PDT #11311 of 30002
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
I have never flown out of Oakland, so I have no advice to give.
PANTS! PANTS! PANTS! PANTS!
Gud, you're a good person and I wish you didn't feel like everything is always your fault.
-t - May 12, 2017 3:49:03 pm PDT #11312 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
I have not flown out of Oakland recently enough to have an opinion.
WEEKEND so much to do, so little motivation.