Gud, you have never posted anything to offend people that I'm aware of. Uncomfortable on your behalf perhaps, but that's what venting to friends is for, so you don't have to bottle up things bothering you and suffer alone.

I'm probably the last person to turn to for sage relationship advice, but avoiding making any mistakes just isn't a thing that's possible for human beings in general. Everyone is fallible and makes mistakes; that's not something to beat yourself up over. And no one else should be beating you up for making honest mistakes either.

Current mood: Wildly annoyed by people who give detailed answers to questions I didn't ask and ignore the question I did ask.

When that happens I get tempted to ask the question that they did answer. Well I have given in to the temptation at home. The result is "I just told you."The smart-ass reply of "Yes I know. When I asked about X, you said Y so I wanted to see if asking about Y would get me the information about X that I wanted," is not as conducisve to peace and harmony as one might hope.

Gud, I am frankly appalled that the other people in your house are giving you shit for cooking food that meets your own very real medical requirements. You have to take care of yourself. They are all capable of making their own food if they don't like what you're making. That is totally on them.

Dinner is complicated right now because I was just diagnosed with diabetes and I've started planning out basically everything I eat and that doesn't always sync well with the rest of the family.

So either they can eat what you cook, or cook for themselves. Your health is objectively more important than anyone else's personal tastes!

Gud, everything that Matt and Kate said. You need a safe space to vent, and you are under totally unrealistic pressure to uphold an impossible standard or suffer the consequences of being merely human.

How hard is it to read a two-sentence email?

Based on my own experience, this also is an impossible standard to expect of other humans (except Buffistas; any of us can read any number of multi-sentence emails like a boss).

Gud, you deserve enough room in your life to make mistakes and take care of yourself. We are humans, not robots. And really, in your situation, although the mistakes you make may give an excuse for the ugliness of the other person's overly harsh response, if there were no mistakes, that other person would still find other excuses.

No, it's not like that. I'm not getting any blowback from what I'm cooking, it was a miscommunication. I mentioned to my wife that I was making chili last night. She has class that night and gets home about 8:30pm or so. (Complicated by the fact that I go pick up our daughter from a college class at that time.) I apparently gave her the impression that I was going to have something for her for dinner when she got home (aside from leftover chili), so she was understandably upset when I didn't have anything. We didn't discuss what I was going to make/get for her so I thought she was handling it herself. I should have clarified things earlier in the day. My mistake. Now she's sort of like, 'I don't expect you to ever make dinner for me again'. But that will probably blow over eventually. It's just tense in the meantime.

(Gud, I hope all this well meaning advice doesn't come across as a pile-on. Lord knows you're under enough stress already without a bunch of us telling you you're being stressed wrong.)

I apparently gave her the impression that I was going to have something for her for dinner when she got home (aside from leftover chili), so she was understandably upset when I didn't have anything. We didn't discuss what I was going to make/get for her so I thought she was handling it herself. I should have clarified things earlier in the day. My mistake.

No, no mistake, just a miscommunication. Those happen. If neither of you clearly stated what was going to happen, it's no one's fault. M & I have done that countless times (which has led to me overcommunicating like woah), and it's just... it happens. The other person shrugs it off & forages for dinner, and then we sit down together & figure out ways to make sure it doesn't happen again. Or more ways to shrug it off.

edit: Also, what Jessica said.

Gud, that is still not normal. I'm sorry, but she is engaging in incredibly emotionally abusive behavior towards you. It is not on you to clarify or give her impressions. It is up to her to say, "Hey, the leftover chili won't be enough, so I'm going to need something else. Are you taking care of that or am I?"

edit to agree with Jess and Juliana in that I hope this doesn't feel like a pile-on. We care about you, and we hate to see you being treated this way.