Thinking about current events on the board, I just wanted to apologize for anything I've posted that might have made people uncomfortable. My social skills are not very strong.

My current mood is pretty down. I messed up last night with dinner and that's kinda still playing out. It seems like whenever I make a mistake it wipes out anything good I've done. I think, for me at least, I need to avoid making any mistakes to maintain a relationship. Dinner is complicated right now because I was just diagnosed with diabetes and I've started planning out basically everything I eat and that doesn't always sync well with the rest of the family.

If the rest of the family doesn't like what you make for dinner, they can make their own damn dinner.

Especially when you are on a medical diet! Which you are!

Everyone you live with is old enough to make their own dinner.

Gud, you have never posted anything to offend people that I'm aware of. Uncomfortable on your behalf perhaps, but that's what venting to friends is for, so you don't have to bottle up things bothering you and suffer alone.

I'm probably the last person to turn to for sage relationship advice, but avoiding making any mistakes just isn't a thing that's possible for human beings in general. Everyone is fallible and makes mistakes; that's not something to beat yourself up over. And no one else should be beating you up for making honest mistakes either.

Current mood: Wildly annoyed by people who give detailed answers to questions I didn't ask and ignore the question I did ask.

When that happens I get tempted to ask the question that they did answer. Well I have given in to the temptation at home. The result is "I just told you."The smart-ass reply of "Yes I know. When I asked about X, you said Y so I wanted to see if asking about Y would get me the information about X that I wanted," is not as conducisve to peace and harmony as one might hope.

Gud, I am frankly appalled that the other people in your house are giving you shit for cooking food that meets your own very real medical requirements. You have to take care of yourself. They are all capable of making their own food if they don't like what you're making. That is totally on them.

Dinner is complicated right now because I was just diagnosed with diabetes and I've started planning out basically everything I eat and that doesn't always sync well with the rest of the family.

So either they can eat what you cook, or cook for themselves. Your health is objectively more important than anyone else's personal tastes!

Gud, everything that Matt and Kate said. You need a safe space to vent, and you are under totally unrealistic pressure to uphold an impossible standard or suffer the consequences of being merely human.

How hard is it to read a two-sentence email?

Based on my own experience, this also is an impossible standard to expect of other humans (except Buffistas; any of us can read any number of multi-sentence emails like a boss).

Gud, you deserve enough room in your life to make mistakes and take care of yourself. We are humans, not robots. And really, in your situation, although the mistakes you make may give an excuse for the ugliness of the other person's overly harsh response, if there were no mistakes, that other person would still find other excuses.

No, it's not like that. I'm not getting any blowback from what I'm cooking, it was a miscommunication. I mentioned to my wife that I was making chili last night. She has class that night and gets home about 8:30pm or so. (Complicated by the fact that I go pick up our daughter from a college class at that time.) I apparently gave her the impression that I was going to have something for her for dinner when she got home (aside from leftover chili), so she was understandably upset when I didn't have anything. We didn't discuss what I was going to make/get for her so I thought she was handling it herself. I should have clarified things earlier in the day. My mistake. Now she's sort of like, 'I don't expect you to ever make dinner for me again'. But that will probably blow over eventually. It's just tense in the meantime.