I have the same problem with green tree, -t, plus they fucked up a few things over the years with the home insurance and such. Nothing huge, but annoying and always I am sure resulting in a little bit more money in their coffers than they've accounted for. We are getting a refi and getting away from them.

Heard from down the hallway: "You're not the Doctor! Don't try that wibbly-wobbly, timey-wimey stuff on me!"

Yeah, I seem to recall insurance difficulties, but nothing recent. I refied through Quicken Loans and green tree took my loan again afterwards! Annoyed me no end. I am way more irate about not being able to choose who holds my mortgage than I am ever gonna be about choosing or not choosing a doctor.

Oh, Burrell. I wish you didn't feel like that. Fat lot of good that does you, though!

I'm gonna have a talk with my boss today about moving some work around.

Sounds like the right call.

Burrell - sorry you feel that way. love you.

flea - sorry for the rushed/stressed morning.

Thanks Jesse. I just need to get over myself. I always keep a more even emotional keel when I remember that it's usually not about me.

Oh, Burrell, be kind to yourself. Every time I see the kids, I'm always struck by how lovely and happy they seem to be, and how much they enjoy engaging with people on topics they're passionate about. The love in your household is evident. I'd say you're doing OK.

So few things are, really. And life is all choices!

Yeah, Burrell--that sounds like a horrible feeling, but I suspect it's not the truth (or only a small, unimportant part of the truth, like if it's a beach vs pool, yes, one kid might be disappointed but it'll hardly scar them for life).

every choice, large or small, forces me to choose whether to disappoint this person or that one because I am the instrument through which life let's them down.

Oh, yeah, I totally know this. I'm sorry you're feeling this way right now, Burrell. It totally sucks. Feeling like I was disappointing everyone in my life no matter how hard I tried is part of what drove me into therapy and to quit my job (so, so very fortunate that I could do that).

We're getting ready to leave for the UK today and I've gotten my brows and nails done and hair cut in the last couple of days, which hasn't happened in ages. I feel like a real human lady again! I also had a friend come over and do some reiki for me to try to help me deal with my dad on this trip. I really don't want to try not to get too annoyed with him, like I do! I will have to draw on all my reserves of patience and calm, though.