There is. It's called menopause.
I should clarify, I want one that's under my control!
Gud, please be kind to yourself. You can't live without some downtime, and being constantly on guard isn't good for you, or even really humanly possible.
Fred: It's the pictures in my mind that are getting me. It's like being stuck in a really bad movie with those Clockwork Orange clampy things on my eyeballs. Wesley: Why imagine? Reality's disturbing enough.
'Shells'
Natter 74: Ready or Not
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Zenkitty - Mar 28, 2016 11:31:51 am PDT #18495 of 30003
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Steph L. - Mar 28, 2016 11:32:47 am PDT #18496 of 30003
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
Gud, if you aren't already doing so, please seek therapy.
Gud, I said this before, and I really mean it: your kids see how you react to things and how you berate yourself and beat yourself up for minor mistakes (or things that aren't mistakes at all, like choosing to watch a movie with L.). You are one of their primary models for how to be in the world, and they are going to learn from you that any mistake, no matter how minor, is the end of the world and that they are horrible people for being less than perfect.
You may be extremely careful about not setting impossible standards FOR them, but as they see how you live your life, they are learning from that. They are learning from you that mistakes are unacceptable and make them horrible giant failures.
THIS IS WRONG. It's wrong for them to learn, but just as important, it's SO very wrong for you to live your life that way.
If you don't think therapy is worth it for yourself, will you consider it for the effect that it could have on your kids? They need a father who models equanimity and a balanced life AND someone who shows them that mistakes happen but it's okay that they happen.
They deserve a happy dad, and a dad who shows them how to be happy even when things are less than perfect (which is, spoiler alert, 100% of the time).
-t - Mar 28, 2016 11:32:59 am PDT #18497 of 30003
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
There is. It's called menopause. Can't turn it back on, but it does turn off.
So you say. It's just a tease afaict.
Jesse - Mar 28, 2016 11:37:34 am PDT #18498 of 30003
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
On the bottom someone had written, in different handwriting, DOG BITE. As if to say, NOT A VAMPIRE. (It was totally a vampire, y'all.)
Totally a vampire!!
Connie Neil - Mar 28, 2016 11:43:08 am PDT #18499 of 30003
brillig
Totally a vampire!!
Tragic barbecue fork accident.
-t - Mar 28, 2016 11:44:28 am PDT #18500 of 30003
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Vampire dog?
Zenkitty - Mar 28, 2016 12:20:56 pm PDT #18501 of 30003
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Tragic barbecue fork accident.
Oh, sure, if you want to live in the REAL WORLD.
Connie Neil - Mar 28, 2016 12:22:00 pm PDT #18502 of 30003
brillig
Oh, sure, if you want to live in the REAL WORLD.
You take that back!
Zenkitty - Mar 28, 2016 12:48:47 pm PDT #18503 of 30003
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Make me!
Burrell - Mar 28, 2016 12:53:39 pm PDT #18504 of 30003
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Congrats to Sheryl and family!
And Gud, please be kind with yourself. Time with your kids is time well spent.