Fire bad. Tree pretty.

Buffy ,'Chosen'


ita's thread

A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.


Steph L. - Jan 14, 2015 9:47:34 am PST #357 of 3153
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

Yes.


Callaluna - Jan 14, 2015 9:49:05 am PST #358 of 3153

Allyson, let them thank you and fuss over you. Maybe that is what they need to do. It is so much easier, for a lot of people (myself included), to give comfort than to receive it. They know ita loved you, and that means that they do, too. I will refrain from patting your hair, but please pat your own hair? You've been through a lot lately and I don't want you to forget to take care of you.

Steph, thank you for the links. It will take ages to look through so many pictures, but wow, so many gorgeous pictures!


Topic!Cindy - Jan 14, 2015 9:50:06 am PST #359 of 3153
What is even happening?

Dana, I'm glad you posted. There was an exchange (a riff, really) between you and ita (I am almost sure it was you). You were talking like cops on a case, and maybe about going outside the law. It was nothing special, so it was everything special, because it was everyday Buffista humor and silliness.

I went searching COMM 1 for it last night, to no avail. I can't remember it well enough to search for keywords other than your names. I'm not sure if it is the kind of thing Ginger is looking for, but I'd like to read it, again. Do you know which exchange I mean?


Dana - Jan 14, 2015 9:51:15 am PST #360 of 3153
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."

You were talking like cops on a case, and maybe about going outside the law.

Heh, I do remember that. I have no idea where to find it, though.


Callaluna - Jan 14, 2015 9:52:29 am PST #361 of 3153

As for sticking around, I am going to try. I feel like I need a cheat sheet to figure out who is who. Some of you I never even knew, and so many of you have different names now. Or I now only know you by your real names from Facebook and cannot even remember your names here. But I'll figure it all out eventually.


-t - Jan 14, 2015 9:55:22 am PST #362 of 3153
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Oh, I remember that. Dana was a loose cannon avenging shrift (I forget why vengeance was needed) and ita was her lieut. I feel like I was at the S&WB when I was reading it, so 2004-2005 if that helps.


Kat - Jan 14, 2015 9:57:43 am PST #363 of 3153
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo

bon bon, I'd be up for an open house. Monday Grace has an eye appointment but we otherwise have off.


Polgara - Jan 14, 2015 10:09:35 am PST #364 of 3153
Karma is a cat, sleeping in my lap cuz it loves me. ~TS

ita's family is hoping to arrive on Sunday, so I don't want to make any gathering plans until we know their schedule and what we can do to help.


Topic!Cindy - Jan 14, 2015 10:14:00 am PST #365 of 3153
What is even happening?

-t, I searched on "ita," in COMM 1 last night and skimmed every page, but didn't see it. Dana, it was so funny -- such a good moment here.


Allyson - Jan 14, 2015 10:16:51 am PST #366 of 3153
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica

A text conversation from June:

Me: I miss you, let me know when you're good.

ita: I miss you too. But I may never be good. Perhaps I should have a wake before I die. Would you throw me one?

Me: Will you wear gingham?

ita: Vintage Gingham, even.

Me: I'll learn to make jerk chicken. And cake with raisins.

ita: I think it can be a healing and bonding experience for us all.

Me: Send me the invitation list.

ita: Let's see, how many friends do I have left after brushing them off for three years?

Me: I'm oddly in the same boat.

ita: We shoulda had kids. Not together, per se, but they excuse all sorts of brushing off, plus you get to post one pic a day (note to Jesse - no you don't)

Me: Well, there will be fewer people to cook for. So I can buy better quality meat.

ita: And it will be quieter.

Me: When should we throw this macabre shindig?

ita: Start of August? Does everyone in L.A. wish they were dead then?

Me: I wish I was dead all the time, it's what I do!

ita: Yeah, it's not very seasonal...