Allyson, I am 100% sure you are doing it "right," whatever that means in a situation that is so wrong. ita's family knows you love her and are grieving alongside them. That means a lot. I hope you are taking care of you, too.
I battle evil. But I don't really win. The bad keeps coming back and getting stronger. Like that kid in the story, the boy that stuck his finger in the duck.
Buffy ,'Showtime'
ita's thread
A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.
Glamcookie - Jan 14, 2015 9:00:35 am PST #344 of 3153
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
Nilly - Jan 14, 2015 9:01:53 am PST #345 of 3153
Swouncing
Allyson, if there's anything I can do from a distance, I'm yours.
I didn't mean to insinuate that I was doing everything.
It's not what I understood from your posts, so I don't think there are any worries regarding that.
Steph L. - Jan 14, 2015 9:02:08 am PST #346 of 3153
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated
I asked if they needed any financial help, this will be an expensive visit, but Moji hasn't responded to that. I hope if they need, they will say so.
Please let us know that, too. If any of her loved ones need help getting to LA, the least I can do is contribute some $$.
bon bon - Jan 14, 2015 9:11:42 am PST #347 of 3153
It's five thousand for kissing, ten thousand for snuggling... End of list.
Would local or otherwise people be interested in a chance to get together? I was thinking I could have an open house Monday (assuming most people have the day off). I understand if it doesn't feel right. But I can get some sandwiches in, people can come by and talk and drink. I have a lot of room. I live in Northridge.
P.M. Marc - Jan 14, 2015 9:11:52 am PST #348 of 3153
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Given that this is a trip they never intended, nor should ever have had to take, I would be honored to contribute what I can to helping financially, and I bet a lot of people would, too. If they're willing to let us help, when they gave us so much in the form of ita, can you or one of the LAistas let us know.
I know we have people who kick ass at handling that sort of fund raising.
sj - Jan 14, 2015 9:19:06 am PST #349 of 3153
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
I asked if they needed any financial help, this will be an expensive visit, but Moji hasn't responded to that. I hope if they need, they will say so.
I am more than happy to contribute.
-t - Jan 14, 2015 9:21:19 am PST #350 of 3153
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
What Betsy said, Allyson. There is no making this okay for them, but what you are doing is helping. Not a hairpat, statement of fact.
I was never in the same room as ita, but I do consider her a close friend. My life is better because I knew her, and I am a better person for knowing her. Whether she ever considered me a close friend, who knows, maybe not, but that's okay, lopsided friendships are okay and real.
Beverly - Jan 14, 2015 9:25:52 am PST #351 of 3153
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.
Allyson, you loved her. Trust me, anything you do for her family will be received in gratitude simply because of that.
Steph L. - Jan 14, 2015 9:31:34 am PST #352 of 3153
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated
I got this quote on the BRQG:
ita: I'm so glad I'm me, since otherwise I might have to be around me, and I suspect that might not be as much fun.
Wrong, lady. Wrong.
erikaj - Jan 14, 2015 9:34:27 am PST #353 of 3153
Always Anti-fascist!
We bonded over being huge Kay Howard boosters(Kay, of course, being the tough-yet-vulnerable female detective on Homicide.) I wrote, well, maybe just a drabble, but when she told me that I captured something...that was huge for me. I think she might have related to some of Kay's challenges, but we never really got into the meta of it all.(Kima on the Wire also reminds me of her a little, at least enough to think "Hey!"when idiots wrote that she was both too tough and too perfect. We didn't have a lot of huge moments, but her sense of humour(I put the u in because she'd like it) enriched my life in lots of small ways for over a decade. I'm sure I can't even guess what it's like fixing the board when it breaks