I love the idea of archiving ita's work. Please let me know if there's anything I can do to help with that.
It sounds odd, but one thing I liked was disagreeing with ita. It didn't happen often, but when it did we could argue things out in a straightforward but civil way. I tend to avoid conflict because I worry about losing friends. But I had the impression that ita welcomed the exchange of differing ideas, as long as The Stupid didn't get too thick. It was something I miss about my dad, and it's something I'm going to miss about ita, too.
Man, I'd totally forgotten about the Batman Fact Generator.
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Ha, I found a recent discussion on I09 where she was digging into the casting issues with Ghost In The Shell and she just sounds....so like herself. Feisty without being contentious, strong POV, making people check their assumptions, putting things in context.
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This is just a week ago.
She's Serenada over there, though I'm sure you could tell that anyway.
But I had the impression that ita welcomed the exchange of differing ideas, as long as The Stupid didn't get too thick.
Many of us learned quickly that we had better be prepared to back up random posts. She was able to be both challenging and comforting.
Damn, I can't stop crying.
Many of us learned quickly that we had better be prepared to back up random posts.
Oh god yes! I have a Stop sign in my head labeled 'ita" just to check myself from making broad categorical generalizations.
She busted me on that shit so often.
There are small dedicated parts of my brain entirely dedicated to dialogue and discussions and fights I've had with her. Thinking it through still.
And I have to say on the very rare occasion that she conceded a point to me, getting a "hmph" from her was like getting a gold star from Dumbledore.
I think secretly I always had half an eye on making ita laugh. Like, it's great to be COMM'ed, but if ita laughed...
making people check their assumptions
THIS! This right here. I do this to myself now because of her. This has helped make me a better person, to the extent that I am, because of her.
(Cross-posted with Natter.)
Like you all, I am having a hard time fathoming this. And I am so grateful you're all here and remembering and talking and honoring. I am so incredibly sorry for her family and Paula, and Norah and Allyson and everyone.
My favorite memory was when I finally met her at Kristin and Drew's wedding and I said "I know you don't hug" and put my hand out to shake her hand. And she enveloped me in a bear hug and told me I was ridiculous.
As I shared on FB, we had just talked the Friday before she left for Jamaica. I had sent her a router and a TiVo earlier and we were getting through the password shenanigans. She was excited about starting at the new job when she returned, and I could hear a lilt of hope in her voice that I hadn't heard for a long time. I remember getting off the phone and thinking "2015 is going to be her year." Fuck.
I probably can't do much day-to-day stuff in person in LA, but I can send funds to help with transport or other details. And I do plan to attend any memorial.
I love you all. And those of you who are making brief visits to talk about ita, I am so glad you've come back to say hi.
I won't know what to not click on.
