Death is your art. You make it with your hands day after day. That final gasp, that look of peace. And part of you is desperate to know: What's it like? Where does it lead you? And now you see, that's the secret. Not the punch you didn't throw or the kicks you didn't land. She really wanted it. Every Slayer has a death wish. Even you.

Spike ,'Conversations with Dead People'


ita's thread

A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.


-t - Sep 03, 2025 2:27:21 pm PDT #3173 of 3212
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

From Allyson on FB

I got the following message from ita’s sister, Moji. I can’t remember my Buffistas password so if you could share this, I’m grateful.

Hi Allyson,

I thought I'd let you know that Daddy died on August 16 after a brief illness. We're having his memorial service this Saturday, September 6 at 11am JA time. It will be livestreamed so if there's anyone from ita's circle who'd like to watch, the link is below.

I'll be wearing ita's gingham!

I hope you're as well as can be...

Best, Moji

-- "We're all fragile. Even the dinosaurs bit it. What can you be in between your beginning and your end, is the question."

[link]


Laura - Oct 08, 2025 5:50:31 am PDT #3174 of 3212
Our wings are not tired.

Remembering omnis_audis on his birthday, today. I hope BC knew how important he was to so many.


Pix - Oct 09, 2025 5:46:23 pm PDT #3175 of 3212
The status is NOT quo.

So missed.


askye - Oct 13, 2025 7:20:52 am PDT #3176 of 3212
Thrive to spite them

I didn't know BC well. But we did play the BSG game on here and it was so much fun. I was thinking of him when I was at the Comicon last Sunday.

Also ita. I saw a bad ass Storm cosplay the woman was in Storm's leather pants, leather vest, white tank outfit. And then seeing all the amazing and talented Black artists there.


erikaj - Oct 15, 2025 11:48:49 am PDT #3177 of 3212
"Somewhere in this building is our talent." Toby Ziegler, my spirit animal

I've been watching "You're The Worst" and saw Samira Wiley yesterday.


Laura - Nov 01, 2025 1:04:49 pm PDT #3178 of 3212
Our wings are not tired.

Thinking of Ginger today on her birthday. She is indeed missed.


erikaj - Nov 01, 2025 6:06:28 pm PDT #3179 of 3212
"Somewhere in this building is our talent." Toby Ziegler, my spirit animal

she comes up in my contacts a lot, but I don't erase it.


javachik - Nov 16, 2025 11:52:57 am PST #3180 of 3212
Our wings are not tired.

Same with Amyth. And JZ. I still have voicemails from Amy and JZ that I’ve saved to a hard drive.


Laura - Nov 19, 2025 5:16:05 am PST #3181 of 3212
Our wings are not tired.

Today is a day to remember DXM on his birthday. It is a tough thread because we have lost so many, but it is also a reminder that we would never have had these people in our lives if it weren't for this place. I think of Ed so often and miss his warmth and spicy brains. I'm so grateful to have known him.


erikaj - Nov 21, 2025 2:29:37 pm PST #3182 of 3212
"Somewhere in this building is our talent." Toby Ziegler, my spirit animal

I COMM-ed him a lot. There have been a lot of us, so I'm not sure I ever get to know any one person as I might want to in a perfect world, but I enjoyed his company while I had it.