I've been bursting into sobs at random moments throughout the day. Finally decided I needed to do something in ita's honor. Given that I sprained my hip putting on a sock, and tore a rotater cuff in my sleep, Krav, Kettle bell and Capoeira all seemed impractical. So I started a Tai Chi class today. Don't know that it was what ita would have wanted, but it is something. And if nothing else, once I get good enough, I'll be able to defend myself if I'm ever attacked by slow motion ninjas.
Wesley: Feng Shui. Gunn: Right. What's that mean again? Wesley: That people will believe anything. Actually, in this place, Feng Shui will probably have enormous significance. I'll align my furniture the wrong way and suddenly catch fire or turn into a pudding.
'Conviction (1)'
ita's thread
A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.
Typo Boy - Jan 13, 2015 5:22:14 pm PST #217 of 3153
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
Alibelle - Jan 13, 2015 5:26:16 pm PST #218 of 3153
Apart from sports, "my secret favorite thing on earth is ketchup. I will put ketchup on anything. But it has to be Heinz." - my husband, Michael Vartan
For some reason, I'm actually really surprised at all these memories of intimidating/challenging disagreements because I don't remember ever disagreeing with her. But then I remember that she literally created the Pink Gingham Junta because she wanted to lead a junta, and thus required a nemesis, so she nominated me for the position (I wasn't given a say so), which is why it went from the "junta I want to start," to the more tailored "Pink Gingham Junta" because Alibelle.
And yet, every time she threatened to break my thumbs, it just felt like a warm hug, you know? Which sounds weird. But it really was a very loving experience to be ita's chosen fair weather nemesis for those times when she was bored, I swear.
And thanks for thinking of me, Brenda! (And thanks, Tom!)
Anne W. - Jan 13, 2015 5:26:33 pm PST #219 of 3153
The lost sheep grow teeth, forsake their lambs, and lie with the lions.
I will need to draw something in her memory. I don't know what, yet. But it will happen.
Miracleman - Jan 13, 2015 5:27:03 pm PST #220 of 3153
No, I don't think I will - me, quoting Captain Steve Rogers, to all of 2020
Aims mentioned the spice cake ita made. I was one of the victims.
Totally classic. "Chocolate cake!" I thought, cutting myself a piece. My first bite...absolute Chandler. Trying to keep as straight a face as I could as the unexpected...spice cake...*happened* in my mouth.
"Good!" I eventually mumbled around that bite. And it *was*, make no mistake, but when you *expect* chocolate...
And ita stood there, with that look on her face. That "Yeah...gotcha." look on her face.
But the cake was good. Once you stopped expecting chocolate.
Aims - Jan 13, 2015 5:28:02 pm PST #221 of 3153
Shit's all sorts of different now.
And yet, every time she threatened to break my thumbs, it just felt like a warm hug, you know?
If she never threatened you with bodily harm, she couldn't be bothered with you. And you totally wanted her to bother with you.
quester - Jan 13, 2015 5:28:52 pm PST #222 of 3153
Danger is my middle name, only I spell it R. u. t. h. - Tina Belcher.
How does this happen? that's all my brain can come up with.
there is a moon-sized hole in the world now.
ita was the scary, cool kid you wanted to be friends with but were afraid of embarassing yourself in front of.
I can't even....how?
Alibelle - Jan 13, 2015 5:30:35 pm PST #223 of 3153
Apart from sports, "my secret favorite thing on earth is ketchup. I will put ketchup on anything. But it has to be Heinz." - my husband, Michael Vartan
Exactly, "Aimee!" But her superpower was that she had the capacity to bother with everyone, individually.
Aims - Jan 13, 2015 5:35:27 pm PST #224 of 3153
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Yup.
It occurred to me a few hours ago that ita is the one who made me The Empress.
Cass - Jan 13, 2015 5:35:36 pm PST #225 of 3153
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
And if nothing else, once I get good enough, I'll be able to defend myself if I'm ever attacked by slow motion ninjas
It's what ita would have wanted, just slower.
I disagreed with her a lot over the years. Less than we agreed but substantial. And it just sharpened my debate and general conversation skills. It wasn't ever personal and I enjoyed that. We could spar and it wasn't personal. I learned to not just feel or be right, I could cite and back it up.
-t - Jan 13, 2015 5:41:47 pm PST #226 of 3153
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Gar, ita encouraged me to go back to Tai Chi because she knew I liked it, I think she would be pleased you are doing it.
A long time ago Nilly said something about the giddy joy of belonging and acceptance that came with ita telling you how very wrong you were about something. I'm glad I have enjoyed that on occasion.