Thanks, Teppy.

Everyone who knew her wants to make everyone who didn't know about it and wish they had; we all just want to grab everyone and say, "Look. Look. Here she was. Her she is. How unlikely is she? But she is."

Yes. Yes.

After I told my mother, the next day I saw that she had the Vampire People book out, so I pointed her to "Safe Harbor," and then today I got a condolence note from my aunt, so clearly my mother told her, too. I was surprisingly moved by all of that.

later I'll be posting pictures of what they're not taking, for those of you who want to keep a piece of her and the things she loved

That's lovely of you. I'm glad the day was easier than expected.

I am trying to remember who I have already given Vampire People to so I can now give copies to everyone else I know to help explain. I guess it wouldn't hurt to double up if I remember wrong.

Good job, boss of Lee. That was touching to read.

The best of hair, so many have it here right now.

If there are momentos, I'd like one. My stepmom keeps finding small things my dad had and each makes me miss him but also have a *thing* that will always keep him close.

I don't know if this is too me and I've waffled on posting for about a day but I have some back/spinal issues. And once I had medical coverage available to me, I've tried addressing them. I'm sad every single time my pain is acknowledged and they try to help because I know ita didn't end up having that. I'm a little freaked because we're going from steroid injections to an MRI showing that an evolving issue would hopefully be better resolved by a series of epidurals that I need to schedule and hopefully it won't go surgical. I nearly cried at the ortho yesterday, not because he told me baddish news, but because he acknowledged that there was serious pain and he wanted to help. The fact that he told me baddish news half hit later and will fully soon. But he told me that my pain was real and he could see the cause. Then he tried to help. I'm grateful and I hate ita couldn't find that.

And also, yes, let us know when there's another place to donate for encouraging women to rock in less female-dominated spaces. I definitely want to give again to that

Oh, Cass.

I'm glad you are getting support/relief and glad you decided to post that. Because yeah.

Jesus, this is all settling in as to how real this is now. This is actually a thing that has happened and ita isn't here at all anymore. No.

I finally told my close friend who lost her sister (also in her mid-forties) suddenly last year. It made it more real for me.

Allyson, if you are reading, she really commiserates with you telling her mother and hearing a sound you will never forget. She was the one who found her sister and had to tell her mother and she is thinking of you and Polgara and Kristen and Burrell. She says that she has heard it too, and it is hard.

That article was wonderful, as was the picture. Thanks for posting it.

I'm glad that everyone who is having to take care of ita's affairs right now has the support of others who feel the same. I'm glad no one has to do it alone.