Love isn't brains, children, it's blood, blood screaming inside you to work its will.

Spike ,'Sleeper'


ita's thread

A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.


-t - Jan 23, 2015 5:49:47 pm PST #1206 of 3157
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

I am trying to remember who I have already given Vampire People to so I can now give copies to everyone else I know to help explain. I guess it wouldn't hurt to double up if I remember wrong.

Good job, boss of Lee. That was touching to read.


Cass - Jan 23, 2015 5:55:04 pm PST #1207 of 3157
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.

The best of hair, so many have it here right now.

If there are momentos, I'd like one. My stepmom keeps finding small things my dad had and each makes me miss him but also have a *thing* that will always keep him close.

I don't know if this is too me and I've waffled on posting for about a day but I have some back/spinal issues. And once I had medical coverage available to me, I've tried addressing them. I'm sad every single time my pain is acknowledged and they try to help because I know ita didn't end up having that. I'm a little freaked because we're going from steroid injections to an MRI showing that an evolving issue would hopefully be better resolved by a series of epidurals that I need to schedule and hopefully it won't go surgical. I nearly cried at the ortho yesterday, not because he told me baddish news, but because he acknowledged that there was serious pain and he wanted to help. The fact that he told me baddish news half hit later and will fully soon. But he told me that my pain was real and he could see the cause. Then he tried to help. I'm grateful and I hate ita couldn't find that.


Cass - Jan 23, 2015 5:56:43 pm PST #1208 of 3157
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.

And also, yes, let us know when there's another place to donate for encouraging women to rock in less female-dominated spaces. I definitely want to give again to that


-t - Jan 23, 2015 6:13:08 pm PST #1209 of 3157
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Oh, Cass.

I'm glad you are getting support/relief and glad you decided to post that. Because yeah.


Nora Deirdre - Jan 23, 2015 6:15:51 pm PST #1210 of 3157
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

Jesus, this is all settling in as to how real this is now. This is actually a thing that has happened and ita isn't here at all anymore. No.


Sophia Brooks - Jan 23, 2015 6:21:35 pm PST #1211 of 3157
Cats to become a rabbit should gather immediately now here

I finally told my close friend who lost her sister (also in her mid-forties) suddenly last year. It made it more real for me.

Allyson, if you are reading, she really commiserates with you telling her mother and hearing a sound you will never forget. She was the one who found her sister and had to tell her mother and she is thinking of you and Polgara and Kristen and Burrell. She says that she has heard it too, and it is hard.


Zenkitty - Jan 23, 2015 6:24:49 pm PST #1212 of 3157
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

That article was wonderful, as was the picture. Thanks for posting it.

I'm glad that everyone who is having to take care of ita's affairs right now has the support of others who feel the same. I'm glad no one has to do it alone.


DavidS - Jan 23, 2015 7:30:23 pm PST #1213 of 3157
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

And they are being fairly unsentimental about much of the fandom stuff, so they want to know if y'all want anything--LotR playing cards, Crow collectible cards, dvds, shoes, books, etc.

Oh man, make sure they know the Legolas/LotR knives were a gift from us and not to be tossed away. And, of course, her ita action figure needs a home (DXM made it).


DavidS - Jan 23, 2015 7:32:01 pm PST #1214 of 3157
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."

And her class protector medal.


Allyson - Jan 23, 2015 7:40:46 pm PST #1215 of 3157
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica

THey loved the knives, swords, and the action figure and took them. There's a big pile of things we think the Buffistas would like. Found her Buffistas Security tshirt signed by Joss. No idea what to do with it.