You CAN just quit. And should. If they don't take your safety concerns seriously enough, fuck their library issues. (And as a bibliophile, I don't say this lightly.)
Giles! I accidentally killed Spike. That's okay, right?
Buffy ,'Never Leave Me'
Natter 73: Chuck Norris only wishes he could Natter
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Strix - Sep 04, 2014 12:07:50 pm PDT #5582 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Zenkitty - Sep 04, 2014 12:08:52 pm PDT #5583 of 30000
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Strix is right. If they can't sustain their own library, that's their own problem. It's not a problem you have to take on if you don't want to.
Steph L. - Sep 04, 2014 12:13:32 pm PDT #5584 of 30000
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
Have you talked to Tim about it? As long as he gets it and supports you, fuck it.
I've mentioned it to him. And he gets it (the safety thing actually freaked him out, too), and will support whatever I decide, but when I said "I feel like I'm stuck doing this forever because if I leave it reflects badly on you," he said, "Yeah, that sucks." And I wasn't sure if it was a "Your situation sucks, so do what you need to do," or a "Yeah, it does reflect badly on me, so you're stuck doing this forever, which sucks."
I, uh, could use my words and ask him to clarify, huh? (But I'm pretty damn sure he doesn't care if my need to quit reflects on him.)
I know he'll support whatever I decide. I just feel like a jerk trying to leave. Which makes me the ideal volunteer -- I'll NEVER leave because of guilt!
I'm willing to stick it out through this next year (meetings start this month and go through May 2015 [also, there are no meetings in November and December, so there are only 7 meetings in a year]), because advance notice would give them enough time to find a replacement.
Strix - Sep 04, 2014 12:32:04 pm PDT #5585 of 30000
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Question: On a scale of 1-10 with 10 being "I'd rather eat my own eyeballs," how miserable is doing this making you?
-t - Sep 04, 2014 12:41:20 pm PDT #5586 of 30000
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
I'm willing to stick it out through this next year (meetings start this month and go through May 2015
Well, that's a lot of time for them to find someone else! Very generous of you.
My dad is the same way, feeling like he has to volunteer for stuff and then can't quit doing it. But it's not up to you (or him) to make sure this stuff gets done. The organization has to figure that out at some point. And if they have to do without that service for a little while, that is not the end of the world.
The safety issue needs to be addressed. That is not okay.
Steph L. - Sep 04, 2014 12:50:51 pm PDT #5587 of 30000
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
Question: On a scale of 1-10 with 10 being "I'd rather eat my own eyeballs," how miserable is doing this making you?
About a 7-8.
Connie Neil - Sep 04, 2014 12:56:53 pm PDT #5588 of 30000
brillig
7-8 is "dump it now" territory.
edit: well, dump it with courteous, unspecific apologies. 9-10 is "leave quickly and stay not on the order of your going."
Sheryl - Sep 04, 2014 1:00:03 pm PDT #5589 of 30000
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
Timelies all!
I'm sorry, Fred.
Ginger - Sep 04, 2014 1:00:16 pm PDT #5590 of 30000
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
In that case, say you'll do the September and October meetings, which gives them four months to con someone else into doing it.
bon bon - Sep 04, 2014 1:00:45 pm PDT #5591 of 30000
It's five thousand for kissing, ten thousand for snuggling... End of list.
And if they can't find a replacement, then they won't be able to have a library for the members.
Life is too short for this shit! It sounds like a job for someone who is passionate about hectoring people, i.e., the chair. The books don't appear important enough for you (or anyone) to stress over, given people feel free to fail to return them. Point them to Amazon's excellent used book prices and moonwalk outta there.