Allyson, anything we can do to help, asking us is a gift to us. Anything you can share is a gift to us. Do not feel selfish or wrong for either.
Absolutely this.
You were very nearly devoured by a giant demon snake. The words 'let that be a lesson' are a tad redundant at this juncture.
Giles ,'Selfless'
Natter 73: Chuck Norris only wishes he could Natter
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
amyth - Jan 15, 2015 9:21:26 am PST #15354 of 30000
And none of us deserving the cruelty or the grace -- Leonard Cohen
Atropa - Jan 15, 2015 9:21:48 am PST #15355 of 30000
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
Oh, Allyson. Bev is wise, and we are here to help each other.
Atropa - Jan 15, 2015 9:22:23 am PST #15356 of 30000
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
And in a completely separate post: msbelle birthday! May the coming year treat you kindly and gently.
Maria - Jan 15, 2015 9:23:53 am PST #15357 of 30000
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
bon is wise.
Happy birthday, msbelle. I hope today is filled with peace and love for you.
Polter-Cow - Jan 15, 2015 9:32:40 am PST #15358 of 30000
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
Happy birthday, msbelle. May this be a bright spot in your week.
Barb - Jan 15, 2015 9:34:43 am PST #15359 of 30000
“Not dead yet!”
I mentioned it on FB, but figured I'd pop in here as well—I'm going up to Vancouver this weekend for a ballroom competition. I'll be wearing a pink gown (no gingham, however), the shoes will be stilettos, not stompy boots, and it'll be waltzes and foxtrots, not krav, but you bet your ass the attitude I go out on the floor with will be fierce as hell.
I'll be thinking of ita as I dance and of course, all of you.
Sophia Brooks - Jan 15, 2015 9:46:15 am PST #15360 of 30000
Cats to become a rabbit should gather immediately now here
Allyson, unburden as much as you feel necessary, as everyone else said.
ita chose you because you are strong, but she also chose you because you have support here, I think.
msbelle - Jan 15, 2015 9:50:18 am PST #15361 of 30000
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
That's great Barb.
Barb - Jan 15, 2015 9:52:02 am PST #15362 of 30000
“Not dead yet!”
Thanks, belle—and while I think Bev put it most beautifully, let me add my wishes for the best for you in the next year.
Trudy Booth - Jan 15, 2015 9:57:04 am PST #15363 of 30000
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
I hope, since she hadn't expressed as much where I could hear, that she hadn't given much thought to her privacy under these circumstances. She did, however, care a lot about not burdening people. She wouldn't want you to be overburdened for her sake.
Bon Bon makes a good point here.
Something else just occurred to me. You certainly COULD have chosen to let ita's parents be told through some sort of official channels. I bet that didn't even occur to you as a possibility. You did it yourself as an act of love, as the actions of a good friend. In some ways, telling her parents yourself was the last thing you could do for her personally and you did it unblinkingly.
If talking about it will help you, you can talk. If something feels too private, you can go back and nuke it and ask anyone who read it to not discuss it further.