I am so sorry you have that memory to carry, Allyson As glad as I am that someone who loved ita delivered the news, as someone who loves you, I also want to punch fate in the 'nads for making that person have to be you.

Lee (and everyone else) speaks truth. Allyson, please please please feel free to vent here or offline. My profile addy is always good, too. But, really, please don't feel like you're being anything but the good-to-the-core human being that you are, because you are. We are here for you, and we would like to help you carry your burden. Very much.

And in a separate post, felicitations on your natal day to the Nicest. I hope that the rest of the year is smooth sailing.

snuggles up to the board

Allyson, anything we can do to help, asking us is a gift to us. Anything you can share is a gift to us. Do not feel selfish or wrong for either.

I'm so glad that I said yes every time I have have said yes to spending time with Buffistas in person over the years. I want to do it more.

Yes.

what t and PC and everyone else said, Allyson. Please ask.

I don't know how to start or what to say that won't violate ita's privacy. Or to even appear to make this all about me, or appear to be an attention whore of some kind. I haven't been here in so long.

I hope, since she hadn't expressed as much where I could hear, that she hadn't given much thought to her privacy under these circumstances. She did, however, care a lot about not burdening people. She wouldn't want you to be overburdened for her sake.

Allyson, anything we can do to help, asking us is a gift to us. Anything you can share is a gift to us. Do not feel selfish or wrong for either.

Absolutely this.

Oh, Allyson. Bev is wise, and we are here to help each other.

And in a completely separate post: msbelle birthday! May the coming year treat you kindly and gently.

bon is wise.

Happy birthday, msbelle. I hope today is filled with peace and love for you.