Go about your normal life and ignore the kitty and he'll start to get comfortable. Talk to him, let him get comfortable with the sound of your voice. Let him see you put down the food if you can, so he knows it's you giving it to him and not trying to take it away. That's what I've done the couple times I've socialized a feral kitty and it's worked. YKMV
As Willow goes, so goes my nation.
Oz ,'Selfless'
Natter 72: We Were Unprepared for This
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Zenkitty - Sep 20, 2013 3:07:50 pm PDT #5934 of 30000
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
sarameg - Sep 20, 2013 3:20:11 pm PDT #5935 of 30000
It took one of my parents' cats a week to even deign to come into her favorite room if I was in it.
I thought I'd posted earlier, but apparently not. Woohoo! Tep! PS, were you aware you're getting hitched tomorrow??
ita & le n, blearg.
I'd like to declare this week dead and gone. It just kept giving and giving and giving...of the most horrible sort.
Theodosia - Sep 20, 2013 3:31:28 pm PDT #5936 of 30000
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"
It was in the pre-cameraphone era, but when Chumley went to stay at Camp Mom (my mother's house) for a couple months, he tried to hide under a cabinet with only about three inches clearance of the floor. Which meant he could only get his head and a bit of shoulders underneath.
He stayed like that for the better part of three hours.
brenda m - Sep 20, 2013 3:37:39 pm PDT #5937 of 30000
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
This is a little weird, but one thing someone suggested to me with Darb was to read to her out loud. Like, sit kind of close, don't look at all and read something out loud. It was incredibly soothing to me and seemed okay to her. Though sitting on the floor reading SPN fic out loud was a little odd.
le nubian - Sep 20, 2013 3:44:20 pm PDT #5938 of 30000
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
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thank YOU for the gold star. man.
aurelia - Sep 20, 2013 3:45:40 pm PDT #5939 of 30000
All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story. Tell me a story.
It took a couple of months to get my semi-feral girls to trust me. They were perfectly content to hide for hours on end. I would occasionally seek them out, talk to them and just touch their feet or let them sniff my hand. It was a long process.
Except when I went to bed. They slept on top of me from the first night. Goofballs.
aurelia - Sep 20, 2013 3:47:51 pm PDT #5940 of 30000
All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story. Tell me a story.
Hey, I'm in overtime now! Woo! I think this one day of tv work is going to buy me some new glasses.
§ ita § - Sep 20, 2013 4:10:38 pm PDT #5941 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
I at least managed to get my uncertainness validated by the business floor. My job next week is more impossible, not less, but at least I have people who will listen.
Zenkitty - Sep 20, 2013 4:16:55 pm PDT #5942 of 30000
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Except when I went to bed. They slept on top of me from the first night.
I think that sleeping near cats makes them trust you. They're predators, they know no one falls asleep in the presence of an enemy.
Kat - Sep 20, 2013 4:42:17 pm PDT #5943 of 30000
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
Ugh ita, you don't need more impossibilities.