He is a 1099 with the company.

Wait, if he is being paid on a 1099 then isn't he an independent contractor and not even really an employee?

That's correct. Which, again, makes most of this moot.

Employee or not, screaming, spitting, name calling and threatening ought to be a no-brainer firing offense, if you ask me.

I suppose I can understand the owner's need to feel better about this. The guy has worked for her for 9 years. He's made a lot of mistakes but he's hung in there for a lot longer than most people in this industry.

We made the decision a couple of years ago to not allow him to walk dogs any more because of his physical condition and proclivity for pissing off clients. On the other hand, he DOES, have a group of fans who have been loyalty to him for a long time.

It will be inconvenient to replace him, but to my way of thinking, so what? It's worth it to not have the headache.

Oy, he has a proclivity for pissing off clients? So in a way, this was a time bomb waiting to go boom. Sheesh. And my dear, it's awful that this continues an unpleasant pattern in your life, and of course you'd like things to be different for once.

Pardon me a second, I need to list off everything I did today because I didn't do near as much as I wanted to/needed to and I need to get it all out to self-validate.

• went to Target where I 1)remembered to drop off glass recycling, 2) spent under $80*, 3) didn't buy nail polish or makeup of any kind and 4) my only kind of frivolous purchase was cute and comfy sandals.

• went grocery shopping
• ordered stuff online for work
• did material research for work
• loaded the dishwasher, did dishes, put a load in the washer, scooped the cat pans, took out the trash and put the can at the curb
• talked to my dad for Father's Day
• talked my sis through yet another freakout about her move next weekend
• transcribed all the voice memos I left to myself last week about stuff I need to do
• emailed coworker checking in to see if she has issues with me/work in general that we need to address

Yesterday I worked in the graveyard, napped, folded clothes, and worked a merch table for a friend.

There's a million other things I need to do, but at this point I just need braindump into evernote or on paper and get everything ready for tomorrow. Oof, I hope this week is a few degrees cooler and a lot less fractious.

smonster, that sounds like a lot to me. Don't be so hard on yourself.

Yeah, that sounds like plenty!

Let's see...Friday I went dancing (the usual two-step, plus after went the lesbian bar with a couple friends for a bit). Saturday I went to my roommate's ice-dance recital, then walked to the Pride Picnic ($1 tacos from Chipotle!), then got froyo, and a pedicure. Then we went to the ballet. Today I worked out with my trainer, went to the farmer's market, took the kittens back to the humane society for shots, and went to a swing dance. Oh, and laundry somewhere in there. It sounds like a bunch, but it's really not.

Things I did not do: Clean my room. Clean my office. Do anything about the jungle that is my yard. Arrange to refinance my mortgage. Talk to my sister about getting her out here for vacation. Cook any food.

Things I wanted to do but decided it's not worth it: remind my roommate that no matter how stressed she may be about filling multiple pages of security clearance paperwork, that is no excuse for her suitcase to still be in the middle of the dining room TWO FULL WEEKS AFTER VACATION. PLus all her other crap. And the dishes. UGH. But she's moving in three months, and it's not worth picking a fight. I asked her to clean, she hasn't. I have, however, told her that it must be clean for Pride. If it's not, I WILL take all of her shit out of the living room and place it on her bed.

Oh, I was just thinking I need to recycle my bottles, but I am thinking I will make a garden border out of them.

My friend did it, and it looks pretty neat.

I sure wish hydrangeas were cheaper; they are so pretty and I have a harsh lust for them. Sigh.

So, I am still running my business, but I am going to have to get a job with a steady paycheck that allows me to still work on my editing/writing. My depression is getting a little better -- I applied to two Nordstrom jobs today -- an esthetision and a makeup artist. I was a makeup artist for Lancome in grad school and the ad has been up for 3 weeks, and they keep posting it.

Wish me luck -- we need more income. Central AC is broken, and the AC is both of our cars isn't working.

And I LOOOOVE makeup, and I'm a kick-ass makeup artist. I's be weird to work outside the house full-time again, but we gotta get some more dough.

That sounds like a full day, smonster. Is your sister moving to New Orleans or just around her current area?

And I LOOOOVE makeup, and I'm a kick-ass makeup artist.

Fun! I pretty much have never worn makeup. I tried a couple times but didn't recognize the person in the mirror and looked older to myself. I've thought about it a bit lately because living here I have to wear sunscreen products on my face and hands in particular my chest because the skin there is so sensitive.

I have to go to the dermatologist and likely have a troublesome spot right smack in the middle of my upper chest removed. Almost every thing I wear has a V or scooped neck line and it is right there staring at me. I couldn't care less about my face wrinkles, but I am going to be most unhappy to have a scar in the middle of my exposed cleavage. Stupid random vanity.

I don't think guys really want to "keep it light"

Does that mean no one wants to "keep it light", or just men don't ever want to?

Either way, I think going into it saying "Well, if you turn out to be that special someone, we can take it up a notch, but I'm not looking for special right now" does no one any benefit.

Either way, I think going into it saying "Well, if you turn out to be that special someone, we can take it up a notch, but I'm not looking for special right now" does no one any benefit.

That's basically what I meant.