J. family teasing is often like that.(So was my mom's mom. I am amazed every day that she is, well, not a complete wreck.Also, mostly awesome.) My extended family still believes I don't have a sense of humor. Really? Aw, Tep. If I had a transporter I'd visit and be the buffer. "What happened" to me could probably eat up twenty minutes,combined with how we met and avoided sexual slavery.
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Steph, you are awesome and I'm glad you realize it.
My advice for the wedding? Let them do whatever they want. It's your day and they cannot ruin it. It does not reflect on you. Or Tim.
My advice for the wedding? Let them do whatever they want. It's your day and they cannot ruin it. It does not reflect on you. Or Tim.
That's my plan. It's not so much that I'm expecting the worst; more that I'm just calculating the possibilities so that *if* they act in a way Miss Manners would not approve of, it won't surprise me and then I can just get on with enjoying myself.
I think the best one can hope for in a wedding are disasters that make good stories.
Come up with wedding bingo. After the reception, see how many boxes you can cross off.
I'm trying to be chill about it. It could be so much worse. I know Dad just wants to feel included, wants people to know he's Not Just A Guest, wants to feel honored, etc. I get that. Plus he might have been whacked out on percocet when he decided he wants to be twinsies with my future husband (CREEPY), and has already totally forgotten it. (OTOH, I know my brother -- who is officiating -- bought a black suit, and if Dad shows up and he thinks Jeff and Tim "match" but he doesn't, he'll be pissed. So maybe I should just encourage him to drop $400+ on a suit he'll only wear once. I don't even know.)
Boutonnière?
Trudy says what I meant to earlier.
Boutonnière?Seriously, this is a great suggestion. It's a small thing, but an important gesture. We got a white boutonnière for each member of our family who attended our LA reception, and it meant a lot to them.
I've been feeling kind of absent myself lately. The thing I try to remember is that we will always be Buffistas and people will always care about us here, even if we have to take a break from time to time.
I take comfort in this. Still always reference my online friends and tell stories of the awesomeness to be found here.
And, of course, I cherish the fact that you guys indulge Birthday Attention Ho's so well (One week from today, for those playing along at home! Right between Cass & Steph - 'cuz I Can Too share the attention!)
And wow, Steph, apparently our moms were separated at birth. Who knew? You seem like you have a really healthy, mature grasp on the situation - no doubt hard-won. I hope your folks rein it in and you have a wonderful, beautiful wedding day.
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Seriously, this is a great suggestion. It's a small thing, but an important gesture. We got a white boutonnière for each member of our family who attended our LA reception, and it meant a lot to them.
Seconded.
We were planning on boutonnières and corsages for family members -- I think maybe my dad doesn't know that. Or he just really wants to wear a black suit. Sometimes you just get so obsessed with an idea that you won't be happy unless you do it. I'm just going to consider myself lucky that all he wants to do is dress exactly like Tim (CREEPY SO CREEPY) and doesn't want to, I don't know, serenade me at the reception or something.