Aims, what a gift it is that you and your parents have been able to work through this together and separately to have a healing/healed relationship.
Seeing my father change from a man who was ruled by his violent temper to one who was the kind of old(er) man that little kids flocked to was very healing. I wish more people could have that gift.
msbelle, I strongly believe that parents who are perfect or close to it do their children a disservice. If you never have to say "I messed up, I'm sorry," to him, how is he going to know how to do that himself?
Tom, I am so glad that you have a therapist who is working with you. I wish it were easier for you.
I strongly feel baby alpacas could improve morale as well.
Coconut oil in prepackaged low-sugar apple-cinnamon oatmeal is... not wonderful. Each bite starts out "Oh, heck yeah, this is what Teppy was talking about!" but ends with "Eh, weird, no." Which means that I'm going to have to try it again sometime in properly homemade oatmeal.
Have y'all seen the senior dog page on fb yet? the gf of the Human's of NY guy is doing it, trying to get senior dogs adopted. it's a joy. several success stories already.
Alpaca mom and baby:
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A fine selection of alpacas to peruse, including one halfway down the page sticking its tongue out: [link]
Here is my regular dog pushing post for Tom Scola
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These dogs would really like to take walks with you while you are taking photos and then snuggle with you at home. THEY TOLD ME SO!
I'm glad you were able to talk to smonster and that it got you where you needed to be, Aims.
How do you guys deal with triggers over the long term? Has it been something that has gradually improved or lessened?
I'm glad you were able to talk to smonster and that it got you where you needed to be, Aims.
Cosign. Bubble wrap for all of us, please!
For me, they just started a couple of years ago and this was only my third time where it got this bad. My plan for the long term is to take them as they come. I have my bag of tricks - breathing exercises, body awareness, finding someone to talk through it.
I'm sorry you had such a rough night last night, Aims.
AS A CHILD YOU WERE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR THE UNCONTROLLED EMOTIONS OF YOUR PARENTS! THEY WERE THE G-D GROWN-UPS!
I'm repeating that because *I* need to see it again. Dear Buffista parents who are aware of your issues and working on dealing with them, I love and respect you. So much.
(My parents were wonderful, but the combination of my mom's unacknowledged/unspoken about depression and her fight with leukemia means I have a lot of issues around trying to make people happy and fix everything. Working on emotional health is
hard.)
So yes, fuzzy blankets and puppies and kittens and baby bats for everyone.
(Come back! I didn't mean to kill the thread!)
