aw.

Don't even get me started on the close friends and family who didn't feel any need to acknowledge our wedding in any way (including a card or phone call) because we eloped.

Did you send out an announcement? We did and that prompted a bunch of cards and stuff, which was really nice. Mostly not gifts, but well wishes.

I must admit, when I got invited to a wedding of a second cousin who I wouldn't know from Eve if I met her on the sidewalk, I didn't feel too bad about not sending a gift, much less going. She's from the super-religious branch of the family that seemed to remember ours when fundraising opportunities arose (my folks helped fund a fair bit of "mission" travel), but couldn't be bothered to come to Mom or Dad's funerals. So the invitation got an eye-roll and a polite refusal. If I actually gave a rats ass about any of them, though, the reception menu would not have made a difference in attendance or gift giving. I make my decisions based on years of simmering familial resentment, thank you, not food.

Scrappy, yes.

I make my decisions based on years of simmering familial resentment, thank you, not food.

As is right and proper.

Just napped for two hours. I think I'm fighting off a sinus infection.

Hil, you poor thing. Feel better.

I had to go for a medical test today and I feel lousy. Probably from the handful of Antibiotics and the three Advil I had to down pre-test. I'm meeting TCG at the car rental place and got here ridiculously early. Somehow there was no traffic at 5 on a Friday, which is unheard of. Luckily I found a book hidden in my car.

I've never been used to alcohol as a common social denominator. My mother was the daughter of an abusive alcholic, and I've lived in Utah for 30 years. I do drink occasionally--very occasionally--but I am completely out of touch with the social etiquette of having booze around. So a full bar means spirits? Beer and wine does not?

we sent out an announcement, but honestly, I didn't care about if people acknowledged our marriage with a card or call or whatever. It wasn't about them, it was about us, that's why we eloped in the first place.

I can see why it could be upsetting, though - I'm not disregarding that response at all.

Hil feel better soon. Sinus infections are not fun. In terms of wedding, my position on weddings I attend is that the food is delcious, and it is just a wonderful party, and I'm sure the couple will be happy together. If privately my opinion about any of these things if different I keep it to myself. But i reserve the right to have a private opinion, and if something seems mockable to find a place like the Buffista board to express those opinions where the mockery won't hurt them.