How are they... but.. In And Out Burger? I take it they're more than just burger flippers.
He's a manager type (co-worker thinks he makes in the $18/hr range), she's a line worker (we guess around $10ish/hr range). Yeah. That's kinda what my reaction was (hence the learning pay ranges).
It's a resort location up in Arrowhead Mountain, outside of LA. Her family is from Vegas, his from Orange County. So Arrowhead was the "half way between" location... sort of. Yeah. A bit absurd.
Seriously, you are (everyone is) entitled to have whatever opinion you want about someone else's wedding. But since I just went through planning a wedding, I have to say -- you don't know all their reasons for choosing what they're choosing, and there are probably a lot more factors involved than you can know, no matter what info you gleaned from one conversation.
We got shit for a lot of our choices, and it fucking hurt. It's not possible to make all your guests happy -- let alone every other non-guest who still has an opinion anyway -- so you end up getting shit about the choices you made for your own damn wedding. And that? Not awesome.
Would I spend $14,000 on a venue? Nope. But it's not my wedding; it's theirs.
I figure anyone's choices about their wedding are their business ... as long as it doesn't involve animal sacrifices or anything like that.
I remember years ago there was this huge debate running in one of the advice columns - a couple who were vegetarian announced that they wouldn't be serving meat at the wedding dinner. A number of their invited guests announced that if there wasn't any meat - how COULD THEY?!?!?! - they wouldn't be attending. My reaction was "huh?"
I remember years ago there was this huge debate running in one of the advice columns - a couple who were vegetarian announced that they wouldn't be serving meat at the wedding dinner. A number of their invited guests announced that if there wasn't any meat - how COULD THEY?!?!?! - they wouldn't be attending. My reaction was "huh?"
People are that way about alcohol, too. Violently so. Several people asked me if we would be serving alcohol, "Because I know Tim doesn't drink, but you wouldn't punish your guests because of his choice, right?"
Seriously, "punish"? I know booze at weddings is generally standard, but if you think a dry wedding is a punishment, you may need to back the truck up.
Seriously ... do you go to a wedding for the food and drink or to watch someone be happy?
If the meat and alcohol are that important to you, then stop somewhere after the reception for a burger and a beer. Sheesh...
I have been to both dry and vegetarian weddings (and a dry vegetarian wedding) and while I VERY MUCH appreciate the social lubricant that an open bar provides obviously I would never presume that my preferences should be taken into account or even verbalized to the happy couple and their immediate family.
Oh, HELL yes. I personally would strongly prefer there be booze at a wedding, and I might express disappointment (quietly) to Tim if there isn't, but I don't feel like I have the right to booze, and I sure would never say so to the couple.
Sneak in a flask and some jerky, people. Or maybe just STFU.
We didn't have a full bar, but we had a crapload of many types of beers (from microbrews to Bud Light), ciders, white wine, red wine, and apparently endless champagne. If we had had the budget for a full bar (meaning spirits) we would have done it, but our guest list generally drinks beer and wine anyway. (And if we had had whiskey, I probably would have started doing shots, and that ends up with me flashing people, which is kind of tacky when you're the bride. So it worked out for the best.)
I still have 1 bottle of wedding champagne left, which we're taking to a NYE shindig. (I'd save it for the 1-year anniversary, but since Tim doesn't drink, it would be just me swigging it out of the bottle, and that's just sad.)
