Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
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And I will help anyone through anxiety and I will help pinch hit and I am so sorry people have had bad experience, I want to gift you all so you have a good one.
No pressure though really, this is solely voluntary and should only be for happies, no stressies.
A student told me today, "My parents are from India. They don't understand getting grades other than A." (I feel bad for this kid. She works really hard, and definitely knows the material, but totally panics when taking the exams.)
I know I've been guilty of this myself with other people, but really there are times when "I'm worried about you. Please keep in touch" is really not helpful. Because it adds to the guilt of dealing with issues related to depression, and I don't always have the energy to keep in touch with everyone. I have TCG here and I see my mother once a week, that really should be enough so that people know I am well taken care of during tough days. Not really looking for hugs or advice, just a little venting.
I am so sorry to hear that, DCJ.
Because it adds to the guilt of dealing with issues related to depression, and I don't always have the energy to keep in touch with everyone.
Some people's "trying to be helpful" just isn't that helpful.
I don't know what's going on with my brain today. I'm crying at every episode of season 3 Community.
Hormones? Winter? General overwhelm? All of the above? None of the above?
sj, I hear you. Even friends can be a drain, and their concern, too.
Typo, thanks for sharing that tidbit! Hilarious.
I'm in, msbelle!
And now that I'm caught up (all ten messages, whew) it's time for bed.
I'm so sorry, Daniel. I hope something better comes along.
I'm worried about you. Please keep in touch" is really not helpful.
I've been trying to say things like "I'm here if you need me, and if you need to hermit for a while that's perfectly fine". This means friends can reply with things like "Not dead, have brain raccoons, I'll check in later*", and I don't freak out TOO much.
(* or "I'll check in tomorrow if I don't wake up dead" for you FOB fans in the room.)
PMS, I think. I also totally cried all through last week's Agents of Shield upon this morning's rewatch.
that really should be enough so that people know I am well taken care of during tough days
I've watched friends be woefully miserable around relatives and significant others sadly often enough that it's not a blanket assurance. Yeah, I gotta suck it up and walk it off because I'm not top of the list to know these things, but that's just it--I don't know these things. My friends could still be isolated and in pain and I could theoretically help, but the way things are is just the way things are. Not gonna stop me worrying, but I do get when it is supposed to stop me saying anything.
(And it is hard to tell, conversely, when people are thinking--why hasn't she been there for me? Doesn't she care? I can't tell when you have space for me and are sad from when you don't have space for me and aren't sad when we're just not communicating deeply, so...)
