Mal: Can I come in? Inara: No. Mal: See? That's why I usually don't ask.

'Our Mrs. Reynolds'


Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Hil R. - Nov 12, 2013 12:50:51 pm PST #6240 of 30002
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

A student told me today, "My parents are from India. They don't understand getting grades other than A." (I feel bad for this kid. She works really hard, and definitely knows the material, but totally panics when taking the exams.)


sj - Nov 12, 2013 1:00:02 pm PST #6241 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

I know I've been guilty of this myself with other people, but really there are times when "I'm worried about you. Please keep in touch" is really not helpful. Because it adds to the guilt of dealing with issues related to depression, and I don't always have the energy to keep in touch with everyone. I have TCG here and I see my mother once a week, that really should be enough so that people know I am well taken care of during tough days. Not really looking for hugs or advice, just a little venting.


Cass - Nov 12, 2013 5:28:44 pm PST #6242 of 30002
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.

I am so sorry to hear that, DCJ.

Because it adds to the guilt of dealing with issues related to depression, and I don't always have the energy to keep in touch with everyone.

Some people's "trying to be helpful" just isn't that helpful.


smonster - Nov 12, 2013 5:41:57 pm PST #6243 of 30002
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

I don't know what's going on with my brain today. I'm crying at every episode of season 3 Community.

Hormones? Winter? General overwhelm? All of the above? None of the above?

sj, I hear you. Even friends can be a drain, and their concern, too.

Typo, thanks for sharing that tidbit! Hilarious.

I'm in, msbelle!

And now that I'm caught up (all ten messages, whew) it's time for bed.


Sue - Nov 12, 2013 6:06:04 pm PST #6244 of 30002
hip deep in pie

I'm so sorry, Daniel. I hope something better comes along.


Atropa - Nov 12, 2013 6:06:28 pm PST #6245 of 30002
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.

I'm worried about you. Please keep in touch" is really not helpful.

I've been trying to say things like "I'm here if you need me, and if you need to hermit for a while that's perfectly fine". This means friends can reply with things like "Not dead, have brain raccoons, I'll check in later*", and I don't freak out TOO much.

(* or "I'll check in tomorrow if I don't wake up dead" for you FOB fans in the room.)


Nora Deirdre - Nov 12, 2013 6:11:01 pm PST #6246 of 30002
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

PMS, I think. I also totally cried all through last week's Agents of Shield upon this morning's rewatch.


Zenkitty - Nov 12, 2013 6:14:14 pm PST #6247 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

I'm in, msbelle!

Me too!


§ ita § - Nov 13, 2013 5:13:30 am PST #6248 of 30002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

that really should be enough so that people know I am well taken care of during tough days

I've watched friends be woefully miserable around relatives and significant others sadly often enough that it's not a blanket assurance. Yeah, I gotta suck it up and walk it off because I'm not top of the list to know these things, but that's just it--I don't know these things. My friends could still be isolated and in pain and I could theoretically help, but the way things are is just the way things are. Not gonna stop me worrying, but I do get when it is supposed to stop me saying anything.

(And it is hard to tell, conversely, when people are thinking--why hasn't she been there for me? Doesn't she care? I can't tell when you have space for me and are sad from when you don't have space for me and aren't sad when we're just not communicating deeply, so...)


Steph L. - Nov 13, 2013 9:15:33 am PST #6249 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

really there are times when "I'm worried about you. Please keep in touch" is really not helpful. Because it adds to the guilt of dealing with issues related to depression, and I don't always have the energy to keep in touch with everyone.

sj, I hear you. Even friends can be a drain, and their concern, too.

I feel like the onus shouldn't be on the person with depression. "Hey, I know the inside of your brain is like being trapped in a cave right now, and everything is hard for you, and trying to get dressed makes you cry, but YOU need to expend the energy to reassure ME."

Nope.