People are so weird about that stuff. That's why we decided to elope, because we are so unable to deal with that pettiness, and we're kind of babies about it.

I'm glad we did it the way we did it, and I thought grown-ass adults would understand that (1) our wedding is not actually ABOUT THEM, and (2) weddings actually have monetary -- and SANITY -- restrictions on them 99% of the time, and therefore 99% of weddings probably can't accomodate the entire fucking world.

Man, I don't even want to deal with this person, and I know I have to see her next weekend. Or, wait, maybe the next weekend. Anyway, soon. And now I just want to punch her in the throat.

I get being disappointed about not being invited to something other people were invited to. But making shitty passive-aggressive comments about it online where you know it'll be seen by the person who didn't invite you? That's just childish.

Some people are always going to find something to bitch about.

There are also the people that you invite because you should who react by suggesting it is a gift request. You can't please all the people all the time, so your best shot is going for pleasing yourself.

I'm angry now that I'm letting this bother me. I'm angry that I'm letting this make me feel shitty about my wedding. I was doing great at letting go of my raaaage at the B&B for screwing us over, and just remembering the good parts, and now this person is using my wedding to make me feel bad for leaving her out of the 3rd-grade slumber party? And it's working.

I'm angry at myself for being so easily manipulated. And angry that a grown-ass adult would be all, "Let me take your one wedding day and use it to make you feel like a terrible person."

Wow, that is dumb and passive aggressive. What everyone else said - I've been sad about not being invited to a wedding but I dealt and got over it.

I'm glad we did it the way we did it, and I thought grown-ass adults would understand that (1) our wedding is not actually ABOUT THEM, and (2) weddings actually have monetary -- and SANITY -- restrictions on them 99% of the time, and therefore 99% of weddings probably can't accomodate the entire fucking world.

I'm glad you did it the way you did it too! 'cause it sounds like an awesome time. Our elopement really was because we did not have the emotional fortitude to deal with everyone's craziness, especially our parents'. I absolutely admire the fortitude of those who are able to handle it!

I'm sorry that this childishness is intruding on you.

Teppy, that's ridiculous. I'm sorry you're dealing with that crap.

Also, what Nora said. I felt like we either had to do 200 or elope. And there was just no way.

And angry that a grown-ass adult would be all, "Let me take your one wedding day and use it to make you feel like a terrible person."

But that's not what he's doing. She's taken your one wedding day and made it ALL ABOUT HER AND HER INSANE EXPECTATIONS. I promise you there is no way you could please this person. If you had invited them, they'd complain about having to give a gift or about the fact that you barely spent any time talking to them at the reception. It's very clear who the terrible person is, and it ain't you.

And angry that a grown-ass adult would be all, "Let me take your one wedding day and use it to make you feel like a terrible person."

But that's not what he's doing. She's taken your one wedding day and made it ALL ABOUT HER AND HER INSANE EXPECTATIONS.

She wanted me to feel like a terrible person. Otherwise she wouldn't have phrased it the way she did, saying "many were LEFT OUT." Like we deliberately decided "Well, we *could* invite these people, but fuck them, let's not invite them, now we will laugh like the evil overlords we are."

It was something along the lines of "When a very important day happens and only a few in the circle go while many were left out."

Some days I'd love to be terribly literal and just say:

"Yes."

I mean, of course it is! We should all be so lucky to be able to invite everyone we like to any social gathering. But we can't, because it's real life, so yes: many were left out. Boo fucking hoo, princess, moving on.

(I still can't believe I once called a cousin and said "What? I'm not invited to your wedding? WHAT??" I was...young and stupid? And at least I'm not young anymore. I'd like to think that if someone had sat me down it would have taken me all of three minutes to get why that was unbearable, even for my overly frank family. And I'd be happy to proxy sit people down so brides and grooms don't have to deal with teh stupid like that.)

I wish I could have been there, sort of. But there is a giant country in the way, right? And etiquette about stuff like that is always such a minefield anyway. Like is the person sending an invite all "Man, we love and miss you," or are they trolling for gifts?(I've gotten both, I think)