And angry that a grown-ass adult would be all, "Let me take your one wedding day and use it to make you feel like a terrible person."

But that's not what he's doing. She's taken your one wedding day and made it ALL ABOUT HER AND HER INSANE EXPECTATIONS.

She wanted me to feel like a terrible person. Otherwise she wouldn't have phrased it the way she did, saying "many were LEFT OUT." Like we deliberately decided "Well, we *could* invite these people, but fuck them, let's not invite them, now we will laugh like the evil overlords we are."

It was something along the lines of "When a very important day happens and only a few in the circle go while many were left out."

Some days I'd love to be terribly literal and just say:

"Yes."

I mean, of course it is! We should all be so lucky to be able to invite everyone we like to any social gathering. But we can't, because it's real life, so yes: many were left out. Boo fucking hoo, princess, moving on.

(I still can't believe I once called a cousin and said "What? I'm not invited to your wedding? WHAT??" I was...young and stupid? And at least I'm not young anymore. I'd like to think that if someone had sat me down it would have taken me all of three minutes to get why that was unbearable, even for my overly frank family. And I'd be happy to proxy sit people down so brides and grooms don't have to deal with teh stupid like that.)

I wish I could have been there, sort of. But there is a giant country in the way, right? And etiquette about stuff like that is always such a minefield anyway. Like is the person sending an invite all "Man, we love and miss you," or are they trolling for gifts?(I've gotten both, I think)

Like we deliberately decided "Well, we *could* invite these people, but fuck them, let's not invite them, now we will laugh like the evil overlords we are."

Well, how else are you going to set up the origin story for being arch-nemeses?

I join in the fist shaking.

As a possible distractions (I'm not sure if this has already been shared on the board as I do tons of skimming and skipping these days) - vagina baby shower cakes. Even less work safe than you are probably imagining. [link] (Some have teeth).

vagina baby shower cakes

That is the most disturbing thing I've ever seen.

Steph, that disgruntled lady was actually on the list of people you'd invite if you had room? I imagine for any future festivities, she won't be on the list at all. What a pill.

vagina baby shower cakes

I must be seriously exhausted from working all weekend in the not air conditioned office because I thought those were hysterical. Although if I went to an event that had one I might feel differently.

The comments on that are hysterical, especially all the people who scrolled up to look at #3 again.

I thought #7 wasn't really a cake, but an art installation. Their stuff is brilliant, savage, and tasty-looking.

The rest? Look very cakey and in significantly less good manners.

Although if I went to an event that had one I might feel differently.

Having a friend's face to directly associate with the vulva in question would really change things, and not for the better unless I had extremely warm fuzzies about her warm fuzzy.

(And the funniest part is that this person, earlier in the summer, was invited to a mutual friend's wedding that Tim and I weren't invited to, and she posted pictures, and my reaction was "Wedding pictures YAAAAAAAY!!!" I totally missed the part where I was supposed to be hurt that someone else's wedding wasn't all about me.)

See, now, to me this seems like a perfectly reasonable response.

But I'm an asshole sometimes.

Steph, that disgruntled lady was actually on the list of people you'd invite if you had room? I imagine for any future festivities, she won't be on the list at all. What a pill.

Word. If you'd like to be an even BIGGER asshole you could tag on, "looks like we made the right call here."

I have a real peeve against "blind items" in social media. You're not Michael Musto so you're an eighth grader. Seriously. More than once I've just embraced my a-hole tendencies and flat-out lectured people on this. If there is even the teeeeniest tiiiiiniest possibility that the people you are referring to could see it just stifle yourself. Don't do it. Never do it. Its bullshit. Just don't.